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Waiting breast biopsy results but consultant confident it will be positive. I'm so scared of what comes next and need someone to talk to who understands

butterflywing
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Hi all , 

Am absolutely terrified . Thought I found a lump 6 months ago that seemed to come , go then came back and stayed . Went to GP 3 weeks ago who didn't think it was sinister but referred me to breast unit . Had appointment on Monday and consultant after seeing mammogram and scan is confident it is sinister .. Now just waiting for biopsy results .. Lump is somewhere between 1.3 & 1.5 mm according to the images.  Am just so scared of what comes next and desperately need someone to talk to who understands x

  • Offline in reply to Turqouiseraspberry

    Hello Gill

    i agree with Butterflywing totally, that it's the waiting and all the thoughts we conjur up that are by far the worst followed by Googling! We all do it to a more or less extent, because worry is a natural response to a health condition that cannot be seen or generally felt. Keeping busy is good as it takes you to a different place for a time and interupts those anxious concerns. Which brings me to how many people you share your experience with. Some keep the news to a small number of close friends and family as I did the first time around. There are some benefits with this approach as you don't have so many emails and messaging to do as a consequence and your experience of odd reactions from folk who say some very funny things are reduced.

    Alternatively, letting your wider group of friends and acquaintances in on your news can be amazingly supportive, especially if you live alone. I have a village of prayers, love and support all routing for me including within this community. Here you can share all of your concerns no matter how silly they might seem at the time, because we get it!

    Many folk here are either at the same stage as you or a little ahead of the game so can truly empathise. I find it such a blessing to be seen, heard, understood and encouraged by wonderful fellow cancer travellers as there are here. So well done for reaching out. Trusting in your team of health care professionals who have so much specific knowledge and enthusiasm to do the very best for you, is the way forward, as well as taking each day as it comes. But that tends to come once you have the diagnosis.

    My very best of wishes for you later today, I will be thinking and praying for you, so do let us know how you get on....

    Vivaldi 

  • Offline in reply to Turqouiseraspberry

    Hi Gill,  yes the waiting is the worst I think.  Once you have a treatment plan in place it seems to get easier and can get on with it and get the bu---er out.  I wanted to wish you luck for Monday.

    Lee x

  • Offline in reply to butterflywing

    Thank you .. I have had to change my username due to glitch in joining last night but it’s still me…  Gill.  I’ve googled and googled and thought I should know better.. my husband is a GP but this time we are on the other side of the scale so he too is facing things differently . It’s the waiting game that is the hardest and I will stay in touch too.. wishing everyone a positive day .. Gill 

  • Offline in reply to Claphamgirl

    Hi Gill 

    Just wanted to touch base and say hope your doing ok today .xxx

  • Offline in reply to butterflywing

    Thank you, back to original  username as admins had an issue yesterday. On a downer today knowing I am being discussed in MDTand the waiting is hell, but onwards and upwards. How are you doing today ? x

  • Offline in reply to Turqouiseraspberry

    When do you hear about their discussion T, sorry I misunderstood as I thought you were seeing them today...

    Hope you get some positive news soon...

    All the very best 

    V

  • Offline in reply to Vivaldi

    Thank you. MDT meeting is today I am unaware to time etc. I will then get a telephone call on Monday with details of an appt next week and this is when it will be discussed with me and my husband. Its the waiting as I know I still have to wait until next week.

    Hope you are doing ok ? x

  • Offline in reply to Turqouiseraspberry

    Try and see the MDT meeting as a positive . It means you will know your plan in the next few days and take the first steps to being free of this bug*** !

    I know right now it's hard to belive but somehow it helps to know what your dealing with rather than imaging worst case scenario ( which I did alot !! ) .

    I left my results appointment feeling positive and more in control .  I'm hoping I feel the same in a few weeks when I get next set of results . 

    I've chosen to only tell a handful of very close family so these support groups are invaluable .

    One lady said to me " we are going through this in the winter so we can flourish in the spring "  that has really stuck with me .

    Sending you lots of love & support .

    Remember although you don't feel it right now , you ARE stronger than you think and you  have got this !! 

    Always here for you xxx

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