Think I have post surgery insomnia,  am hoping I'll crash out in  a little while lol.

So sorry to hear about your husband it sounds like you and he have been through alot both physically and mentally . I hope he has a speedy recovery and he can get back home to you very soon .

My 88 year.old mum fell on Christmas Day and I ended up in A & E with her for about 6 hours which looking back now wasn't too bad but at the time felt like  lifetime . Thankfully she hadn't hurt herself.other than a bump on the head and knee so she was allowed home . I stayed with her that night to make sure she was OK but I think in reality she looked after me more as.i really struggled mentally with my diagnosis and felt I had.no head space for other people's problems as I couldn't process what was happening to me .

I'm hoping post surgery my anxiety will ease .but results day is a concern I'm.already thinking about 

All we can do is take one day at a time , one step at a time and trust all this will pass  .xxx

Thanks Jolamine, it still doesn't seem real. I try to imagine what it will be like having one side flat but can't. I guess I will know soon!! I don't think it will bother me as it might have done when I was young, it all feels like an odd dream. When I am at home everything seems normal it's only when I go for appointments does it start to sink in. Am a little anxious about tomorrow, but still surprisingly calm. Have prepared my wardrobe of button down/zip fronted clothes so I should be okay.

Where are you in your journey? You say you will never be the same as you were pre-cancer, are you prepared to elaborate on that? I know my own experience of it, after all the treatment was finished, is that it's always there in the back of your mind... 

Sorry to hear your husband is in the wars so to speak, I guess he is in a lot of pain with 5 broken ribs and shoulder and that must have been some fall! Hope he is on the mend soon! That can't be easy for either of you, so hope you have a lot of help and support.

All the very best to you both

Vivaldi xx

Hi B!

I am sorry to hear about your Mum's fall over Christmas but glad she didn't hurt herself too badly. I bet she had some spectacular bruises afterwards though! 

My results day, post surgery is on 19th of this month and I think you hit the nail on the head, one step at a time.

I used to be in a hurry to get back to normal whatever that was, but I am just so very grateful for you guys and all the supportive folk in my tribe who are praying for me. So much love for you all it makes my heart burst!

V xx

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Hi V 

Just wanted to let you know I will be thinking of you tomorrow as I have been today.

Sending you lots of love and calming.prayers xxx

Hello B

Everything went well with the dye and scan so onto the next hurdle now....Bless you for you love and prayers and sending some right back at you! xxx

Hi Butterflywing,

I am so sorry to hear about your mum's fall, but I am glad to hear that she didn't break any bones. No amount of worry will  change your post-surgery results, so why bother? You're right the best way to cope is not to look too far forward, but take things day by day or even hour by hour if need be.

I hope that you managed to get some sleep eventually last night.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

HI Vivaldi,

I hope that all went well for you today and that you manage to get some sleep in hospital tonight.

I am 16 years post-diagnosis. I had pure mucinous stage 1 breast cancer, Within a year of my first surgery - a lumpectomy, I was diagnosed with pre-cancer in the other breast, then another primary cancer in the original breast. I had a double mastectomy second time around and still manage to keep busy and live a fulfilling life. Please send me a friend request and I'll be happy to elaborate why I'm a different person post-diagnosis than I was before - I think most people who are diagnosed with cancer do change and many live with the fear of recurrence. 

Hubby has a lot of co-morbidities and we seem to jump from one emergency to another. We live independently, so it can be a strain at times. 

Some people do find it difficult to cope with one side flat, but this seems to worry younger people more. You will get a prosthesis for your flat side and these can look good when dressed. I am now totally flat, but use 2 prostheses when I go swimming, which I do regularly.

I do hope that you are not too uncomfortable tonight.

We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thanks Jolamine my op is tomorrow or should I say today? Will message you later as I have to be up early to shower etc before getting to the hospital by 7.00am!

Am hoping to get a hour or twos sleep, but no luck so far! Xx