I have recently been diagnosed with breast and liver cancer. Waiting to meet the Oncologist and feeling as if I am in no man's land. Feeling very scared .
Welcome to Cancer Chat. I can imagine this must be incredibly tough - it's a feeling many on here will be able to relate to, knowing that it's never easy when waiting for appointments or to find out more.
I'm not sure when your appointment is but I hope it's not long to wait. Ahead of that, it might be helpful to write down any questions or worries you have, to help you be able to talk everything through when you have your appointment.
Apart from that, some say it helps to try to keep busy, and to take things a day at a time while waiting - although this can be easier said than done sometimes.
We're always here for support when you need it, and hopefully you'll get more replies to your post soon.
Hi I empathise with you and wish you all the best. I've also just been recently diagnosed with prostate cancer, I was shocked, overwhelmed, feeling unsettled, I'm also awaiting the oncologist, I'm here if you'd like a, chat.
Thank you Ben, I have a date to see the Oncologist it is this coming Monday. Due to being lost in the system for nearly two years every thing is being pushed forward at speed. Hopefully treatment will begin quickly although now it is palliative care and treatment as it has spread to far xxx
Thank you both, my appointment is for this coming Monday, thinking of you Onthekwai. It is those times when everyone is asleep and I just lay thinking of scenario's and outcomes and how to tell the girls. Ups and downs but must stay positive xx
I lay awake most nights thinking about how my illness has created a 'full stop' to my life. I'm coming up to the first anniversary of my diagnosis and I'm amazed looking back how my life had changed.
I can no longer socialise like I used to, I can't work like I used to, I've missed out on holidays, family events and numerous other happenings.
But I've made a decision, I'm going to start living what time I have left as a dedication to my oncologist and the nurses who look after me!
I now go into work for 6 hours a week and have begun socialising again with my workmates. I'm even looking at a possible foreign holiday!
What i am trying to say is there are a lot of people working very hard to keep us cancer sufferers as well as possible and I think we should try to repay their work by being a little bit more positive with our lives.
That's a wonderful attitude to have Graham, you're right in regards to the people working so hard to prolong our lives, including those unseen faces grafting away in labs to find potential cures. You've inspired me this morning, so much so that I'm going to visit a friend this evening, I've done no socialising since my diagnosis, so thanks to your kind words, I'm going to change that, enjoy your weekends everyone and keep battling away.
Hi Owler, I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have secondary breast cancer with mets in pelvis, hips, spine, ribs and skull. I was diagnosed a year ago. At first I was so shocked and scared. I thought I would die. I am now on treatment and my cancer has stabilized. This year I feel so much better and 100% more positive. I did stop working as my spine was so painful sitting at a desk all day. I still socialize, go to pubs, restaurants and walk my dogs as normal. My husband and I even went to Portugal on holiday this year. This week I have just started voluntary work in my local hospice charity shop for two afternoons a week. I know we have incurable cancer but it is definitely treatable and we can live a good life for many years. I am on the Macmillan site, there is a forum called Living with Incurable cancer - patients only. It is brilliant for support as we are all in the same boat. We chat about food, TV, holidays or anything you want. We are living with cancer. I am sending you a big hug and hope your oncology appointment goes well. Please keep in touch.
