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Hey everyone, I am new here but have a situation which is not new to the community. 

Today someone close was unexpectedly told they are stage 4, details tbc, and they are not ready for this. 

I am physically remote to them but may be the closest person they have to talk to and they’re not good at talking. 

I’ve tried to help today with how I expect they will be feeling. If anyone has any links or advice to what may help me to help them in the times ahead, I’d be grateful. Thank you. 

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    1. You could send texts every now and then asking how they are or just saying that you are thinking of them.  Even if they don't reply, they will still feel comforted by knowing they are not on their own 

    Let them know about this chat forum.  They may find it easier to write things down than to talk about them 

    Send little gifts in the post eg a puzzle book to help them through the long drawn out chemo sessions, s nice sponge bag that they can put all their extra drugs in, a jigsaw (I find these to be v therapeutic ).

    You can always just ring them and ask how they are. If they say fine and then ask about you , you know not to push it any further.  They will still feel glad you called.

    Hope this helps.

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