Scared. Found out on Monday that I have breast cancer.

Hi new hear.  Found out Monday I have breast cancer. 
out of my depth is an understatement. Have an appointment next week to discuss options the a CT scan the following week. Where ever I have looked I can’t seem to find a real true account of what’s going to happen.  I know it depends on the treatment package.  All I know is I have Beryl BC and I am so scared xxx

  • Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I have breast cancer.   In  some ways the test and results bit of the process was the worst part for me -Now I am through that and have a treatment plan  I feel more reassured and calm.  You might find the same.  Once the shock wore off I got used to it and found "the new normal".  I hope you find the same. 

    Iid write down all the questions you want to ask so you are fully prepared when you see the Dr next week.

    Good luck with everything.

  • Me too. Found out for certain on Monday also  out of my.depth. convinced its elsewhere too. As I have a cough and cold. I'm waiting for pre op review,  anesthetic review then lumpectomy and radiotherapy. Ita an awful time. The waiting, hoping struggling with emotions. I've been to the gp and he has prescribed diazepam to get me through. I've had a few panic attacks which has scared my.poor husband! So I thinks it's quite normal to feel out of control and scared. Go see your gp. They can help too. Find someone you trust and talk to them. It may nelp. Plus, I'm here.  We can compare.notes!

      

  • All sounds familiar.  If it’s any consolation, I went through a very anxious patch but now I’m not so bad.  So maybe theses things come in waves and don’t last…I have found CBT very useful.  You can get it on the NHS, via the GP, but I don’t know how long the waiting lists are.  I went privately.  I used to feel bad that I wasn’t coping when everyone around me seemed to be doing well.  However, you just don’t know what is going on inside people and Im assured Drs are VERY used to seeing people who find their cancer experience difficult at some point..

    Inf ormation is key to managing the situation and itts good to go in to consultations pre armed with a list of questions.  Helplines / websites  are good but they can only give general information, which may or may not apply to one’s specific case. 

    Best of luck with everything 

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    Hi. Just been diagnosed for breast cancer for the second time - last time 2004!  Things have got so much better since then.  Can't have radiation treatment twice - something I didn't know.  Depends on lots of things - just speak to the doctors and listen. 21 years since last treatment and I'm still here, and as I've said they're much better now.  Be positive and you'll do well.

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    Hi. Just found out that I have recurring breast cancer. Last had it 2004 - so 21 years later still here!  Talk to the doctors and listen,  Can't have radiation twice - something I didn't know.  This time bit different. Be positive - a good thing!  As I said they are so good nowadays and treatments are great.  Your choice - in discussion with doctors.  Don't be afraid to ask tough questions  - or look at the positives in the answers. I hope you've had good news with your CT scan - I did.  Good luck and many more years.

  • Sorry for repeating myself but thought I'd lost the first reply lol

    1. Well, I had surgery on 26th April. Didn't get to see the surgeon after as home so quickly. Spoke to the breast care nurse, but she was unsure of what happened in theatre. Now I have to wait up to 6 weeks for results! Feels like a lifetime! I've been seen by an amazing gp who has supported me so well.  I've been really struggling with emotions. Can't seem to find joy in anything. He has prescribed anti anxiety meds, so hopefully, they'll kick in soon. He's asked to see me weekly.just checking in. I hadn't had any bloods done for some time, so he's also done this, all ok, thank goodness. I've also had to stop all my hrt, so that's not helping!every pain or twinge I feel is heightening my fears. I've had an upset stomach, so I've now convinced it's in my bowel! Never took so much notice of my stools!!! Feels.like I'm in limbo.