I’m in such a mix of emotions and I can’t see what’s best to do. 

I found out on Monday my Dad is highly likely to have bowel, live, lung cancer and I’ve read the consultants letter which shows likely to be in the pancreas as well. The consultant is doing a biopsy in two weeks to get the confirmed diagnosis. 

I have two children who are 11 and 17. Grandad has made it very clear he doesn’t want the grandkids to know until it’s confirmed. I have a complex relationship with my eldest, but we’re currently in a good place. I’m worried that by keeping it from them will lose trust, but I also don’t want to go against my father’s wishes. 

My ex is aware but he’ll keep quiet. In my gut, I feel it’s right to say that Grandad is having some tests done and that it’s likely going to be cancer, but I feel so conflicted. 

Does anyone have any advice on this please?