Today was the day - single Mum newly diagnosed with breast cancer

Hey everyone,

I've read lots of these posts and been overwhelmed by the support everyone receives so I guess that's why I'm posting!

Today I was diagnosed with HER2+ breast cancer. I'm not sure if it's sunk in yet even with the amount of times I've said it. 

I am 44 and a single mum of two children 10 & 13, so was in the mind set I was too young for cancer even after finding the lump and being told it was suspicious. I went today with a glimmer of hope it was not going to be cancer.

My mum died of breast cancer in 2015 so I have seen the impact it has on lives. I am worried I am going to struggle to juggle work, children, hospital appointments etc as I so want to be strong for my children. The added pressure of being a single mum is huge as it is without throwing an illness in the mix.

My doctor has a plan and is positive it is treatable. Chemo, CT Scan to stage it, then surgery once the chemo has done it's thing. 

I have told my children as I believe they need to know and they need to process things and understand what's going on. They took it was better than I thought which was encouraging but I'm fully aware they may not have processed it yet.

I guess I just wanted to write all this down somewhere to hear from people in similar situations.

Thanks for reading,

Vicky.

Parents
  • Hi Vicky, so sorry to hear of your diagnosis, it must have been a shock for you. Our situation is not quite the same as I'm older than you and my children are adults. However, I was diagnosed in January with invasive ductal carcinoma and am also HER2 positive. I was put on chemo first, then will be having surgery, followed by radiotherapy. I will then go onto hormone blockers for 5-10 years. The chemo I was put on is EC-T. So far I've had the 3 EC and 2 of the T (for me this is docetaxel). I also started on phesgo injections  when I started the docetaxel,  due to being HER2 positive. My next treatment is on Tuesday and last one on the 9th of July. For me the side effects have been minimal and I'm able to do all the normal stuff like cooking and cleaning. I also go for a 2 1/2 mile walk every day, which is great for the mindset. Obviously everyone is different and some people do get more side effects, but thought you'd like to know it's not so difficult for everyone. I hope all goes well with your journey moving forward and  if you have any questions I'm always here. Xx

  • Just newly diagnosed with breast cancer (not sure what type though!) but my treatment plan is similar to yours. Reassuring that you can still live a reasonably full life during chemotherapy. Did you use the cold cap as I’ve decided to give it a go? 

  • It’s a big one! 11cm  I know every 2 weeks sounds a lot. I’ll be just recovering and them bam another one. Still if it gets the job done. Happy days. 

  • I think it’s good every two weeks. I’d prefer it. Shorter time but maximum treatment. Just wondered if they gave you that option or just told you that’s the way it was. When do you start? 

  • How did telling your children go? I’m recovering well. Had the outer dressings changed today but no other news. Just again in that waiting zone- eager to get results. 

  • Hi. Thanks for checking in. My youngest gave me lots of cuddles. My eldest was quiet and had very little reaction yesterday. But today on the way to school we had tears and lots of questions from the eldest. So I think it's still processing. 

    How long did they say the results take in your area? They've said 4/5 weeks here but usually the results for everything else have come quicker so fingers crossed.  How is your recovery? Are you managing the exercises? How are you coping with things at home? 

  • They said 2 weeks. Hopefully earlier, although I found out today that my nurse has broken her foot so I’ve been allocated to another nurse. It’s a bit annoying as my nurse has been telling me everything once she sees it on the system rather than me having to wait to see doctor. This one might not do that.

    I’m managing totally fine, it’s the resting part I find hard as I’m quite an active person generally so want to get busy all the time. 

    I’m pleased it went well telling the kids. Good luck for Wednesday. 

  • Start on Wednesday. Picc line fitting  tomorrow . Hopefully bloods will be ok. Hope you get some positive news soon. I’m hoping life will be pretty normal apart from the tiredness, sickness, diarrhoea, loss of hair ( so probably not normal life) . Went to m and s and bought loads of treats for myself today. 

  • Hopefully this new nurse is just as diligent. I never have the same one twice!   Let me know how get on. I will be thinking of you. 

    I am also an active person and a 'do'er' so I don't know how I'll cope either. 

  • I’m pleased you got yourself some treats. And I’m really hoping you don’t suffer from any tiredness, sickness, diarrhoea or loss of hair. Positive thoughts in all directions. What’s a picc line fitting? Is it something you wear constantly throughout chemo?

  • Yes a picc line is in all the time.  I’m not sure why I have to have one. It does mean I cannot swim or do yoga so I am a bit cheesed off. It does however mean if I get an infection they can get antibiotics in quickly. 

  • How is your chemo going Vitchy? Are you having much luck with the cold cap? 

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