38 years old newly diagnosed breast cancer

Hi all, I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer. I’m 38 with no family history but was referred to the breast clinic after finding a lump where I had an ultrasound, mammogram and biopsy before the nurse told me the lump was highly suspicious. 10 days later and I went back to receive an official diagnosis, luckily feeling prepared after what the nurse had said previously and with my husband for support. I have HER2 positive oestrogen positive progesterone positive cancer, stage 2 grade 3. I have been given a treatment plan which involves chemotherapy and hormone treatment starting in a few weeks, then a lumpectomy, then maybe some more chemo before radiation. Obviously it has all been a shock and I’m really keen to talk to other women who have received a similar diagnosis. I’m scared about chemotherapy and how it will make me feel and look, and I’m worried about the effect of them shutting down my ovaries and blocking hormones - know it is required because the cancer is fed by hormones but I thought I had more time before menopause! & in all of this my biggest worry is how it will all impact my 4 year old daughter. She is my sunshine and I don’t want her to have to go through all that is ahead. Any thoughts, suggestions, tips would be welcome as I try and navigate this strange new world! Xx

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  • Hi Hannah, I'm really sorry to hear your diagnosis. However it seems like you have a plan! That's made it easier for me - to know what's going to happen. 

    I am 39 (with 4 and 6 year old girls) and I was told I have a grade 1 4cm cancer on 19th April. I was started on tamoxifen. I then had a MRI and Mammogram. I went last Monday to see the consultant and I was told I needed another MRI as the first MRI caught something on my liver. I panicked. But they said they don't think it's nasty - probably cysts. I had the MRI of my liver on Friday. And I've got surgery booked for 26th June. They need the results of my second MRI first and I need to be off the tamoxifen for 2 weeks first. 

    They said the lump is bigger than they thought. It's 4.6mm x 3.8mm. It looked huge on the MRI scan picture.  Its ER+ so a little different to yours. 

    It's been horrid for me as my Mum had this ER+ BC in 2006 at 56. Then it came back in 2016 and she died of metastatic bc in 2019. It devastated me. I always worried I would get it but I thought I would have more time before.  But I'm focusing on the positives and I won't be defeated by this. I have to be here for my girls. I haven't told them yet. I will before the surgery but I'm dreading it. 

    Keep in touch! I wish you all the best. X

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  • Hi Hannah, I'm really sorry to hear your diagnosis. However it seems like you have a plan! That's made it easier for me - to know what's going to happen. 

    I am 39 (with 4 and 6 year old girls) and I was told I have a grade 1 4cm cancer on 19th April. I was started on tamoxifen. I then had a MRI and Mammogram. I went last Monday to see the consultant and I was told I needed another MRI as the first MRI caught something on my liver. I panicked. But they said they don't think it's nasty - probably cysts. I had the MRI of my liver on Friday. And I've got surgery booked for 26th June. They need the results of my second MRI first and I need to be off the tamoxifen for 2 weeks first. 

    They said the lump is bigger than they thought. It's 4.6mm x 3.8mm. It looked huge on the MRI scan picture.  Its ER+ so a little different to yours. 

    It's been horrid for me as my Mum had this ER+ BC in 2006 at 56. Then it came back in 2016 and she died of metastatic bc in 2019. It devastated me. I always worried I would get it but I thought I would have more time before.  But I'm focusing on the positives and I won't be defeated by this. I have to be here for my girls. I haven't told them yet. I will before the surgery but I'm dreading it. 

    Keep in touch! I wish you all the best. X

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