Good morning all

My new partner was recently diagnosed with Prostrate Cancer.  After an MRI they also said he may have bowel cancer too.  After having a biopsy they have now told him he doesn’t have bowel cancer, which is a blessed relief. I’m left wondering what they saw in the MRI that made them think his bowel might be affected too.  He has started oral chemotherapy which is affecting him really badly.

He is 60 years old, went to the gym daily, usually did a couple of weight and body pump classes, top in his running club for his age, cycled 60 - 70 miles regularly and therefore was extremely fit.  2 weeks later and he is so fatigued, has brain fog, not sleeping well, breathless climbing the stairs.  We are assuming this is the medication but not really sure. He is finding it hard no longer being the fit man that he has always been.  I keep reiterating that this is a temporary blip and he will get through it and to be kind to himself whilst his body adjusts to the meds.  As soon as he gets any energy he pushes himself to run or exercise as his way of coping but I can’t help but feel that putting his body under this stress when he is taking chemo, surely can’t be a good thing - is it?

We are in a very new relationship and given that I lost my husband 6 years ago to cancer, he is reluctant to burden me with his fears but I don’t want to walk away as I’m hopeful he will recover and morally I could not just leave him to deal with this on his own.  On top of all of this, he is moving house in 3 weeks time too!

Not really sure whatI need or want to know but felt the need to reach out to others as I’m trying to compartmentalise my own wants and needs in order to support him on this awful journey.