Newly diagnosed prostrate cancer

Good morning all

My new partner was recently diagnosed with Prostrate Cancer.  After an MRI they also said he may have bowel cancer too.  After having a biopsy they have now told him he doesn’t have bowel cancer, which is a blessed relief. I’m left wondering what they saw in the MRI that made them think his bowel might be affected too.  He has started oral chemotherapy which is affecting him really badly.

He is 60 years old, went to the gym daily, usually did a couple of weight and body pump classes, top in his running club for his age, cycled 60 - 70 miles regularly and therefore was extremely fit.  2 weeks later and he is so fatigued, has brain fog, not sleeping well, breathless climbing the stairs.  We are assuming this is the medication but not really sure. He is finding it hard no longer being the fit man that he has always been.  I keep reiterating that this is a temporary blip and he will get through it and to be kind to himself whilst his body adjusts to the meds.  As soon as he gets any energy he pushes himself to run or exercise as his way of coping but I can’t help but feel that putting his body under this stress when he is taking chemo, surely can’t be a good thing - is it?


We are in a very new relationship and given that I lost my husband 6 years ago to cancer, he is reluctant to burden me with his fears but I don’t want to walk away as I’m hopeful he will recover and morally I could not just leave him to deal with this on his own.  On top of all of this, he is moving house in 3 weeks time too!

Not really sure whatI need or want to know but felt the need to reach out to others as I’m trying to compartmentalise my own wants and needs in order to support him on this awful journey.

  •  Can't offer you any advice but I just wanted you to know that your partner is so fortunate to have you by his side.

  • Ahhh sorry to hear about your partner's recent diagnosis, I am 2 months post-op for prostate cancer and I was in a very similar position myself.

    I reached out when I was diagnosed and found support from others who have been on the journey and feel it's important to be there for others.

  • I was diagnosed with prostate cancer 2018 and had my prostate removed as a result. When I was first told, both my wife and myself just sat crying and thinking this is it. I am now 5yrs post op and apart from a bit of incontinence I am fit and well, and most important. Alive.

    These sites are an essential link for cancer sufferers to converse with other,. None of us are doctors we know, but we know the feelings that come with those dreadful words; I'm sorry to have to tell you, you have cancer.

    I have come back to this site again after 5yrs, as I have yet again been given that dreadful news. I have now been diagnosed with MPN which is a rare form of blood cancer (totally unrelated to the prostate cancer) so yet again I am searching for other MPN sufferers to gain as much knowledge as possible, which I have now seen and feel as though I am not alone on this second journey.

    Please keep positivity at the top of your list and always be confident that huge strides have been made into both of these types of cancers. Join hospital groups if available, as these are another source of knowledge and comfort.