My poor Granny

I'm so lost and I just don't know what I'm meant to do. My Gran who is my world, was told a week ago today that she has a tumor whilst having a camera look to see why she couldn't swallow properly! The consultant has made it all sound so bleak and heart breaking. Her blood results came back with the high levels showing it was cancer too. She has a CT scan tomorrow to see the actual depth of this cruel disease and to see if it has spread. 

She is only 75, me and my 2 children two and seven adore her. She is the best gran and great gran. We are going to Weymouth for three days next week too as we booked it last year. 

We've been told the prognosis is not going to be good! But what am I to do. People have said to keep positive. But HOW!! just how. There is a very  very slim chance it hasn't spread but the symptoms and size of tumour seem to state other wise. 

What am I meant to to say? What am I meant to do when all I want to do is cry! I don't want her to suffer. She isn't even too bad now. This will change I know

 How am I meant to explain it all to my seven year old who is autistic. 

How do you carry on without someone who is such a huge part of your life. 

  • Hello SjOBm123

    I'm so sorry to hear about your beloved Gran's diagnosis. It's obviously a very worrying and difficult time for you all at the moment and understandable that you have lots of questions and concerns about what the future holds. 

    We have some information on our website about coping emotionally for friends and family which you might find helpful to have a look through. We also have some helpful tips about talking to children. But I know many of our members here will agree that it helps if you try to take things one step at a time. Looking too far ahead to the future can leave you feeling overwhelmed and more anxious. 

    It's good to hear that your Gran isn't feeling too unwell at the moment and hopefully this means you'll all be able to go away and enjoy your holiday together next week. 

    Once you come back then it's likely that the Consultant will have more information about your Gran's situation and what the next steps may be in her care. 

    If you'd like to talk anything through with our team of nurses you're welcome to call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9 am to 5 pm. I'm sure they will be happy to offer any advice and support that they can. 

    Keep in touch and let us know how you're all doing. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator