My dad has been diagnosed with lung cancer . How do I cope?

My dad has recently been diagnosed with lung cancer . His breathing is 46% FEV. He has stents in his heart, copd, depression and anxiety . He had tb of the bowel that he survived and survived pneumonia a few years ago. 

The nurses said he can't have a camera biopsy in case a lung collapses.  It's in both lungs but worse in the left . They said he cant have chemo or high radiotherapy as it might make him worse . They said it could be chemo tablets or light radiotherapy depending on what type of cancer it is and they will only know from blood works. 

They ordered a blood biopsy from America and we are still awaiting results.  First they said it would be a 2 week wait, then 3 weeks and now they are saying it will be longer as the doctors are all on holiday . It seems a big negligent and cruel to make him wait that long . It sounds like they are leaving him to die or don't care if another one hits the dust. 

We are very hurt . He complained of wheezing last year and nothing was done.  Apparently its been growing for a year . I feel angry and hurt . I'm wondering if they may be wrong . They are implying there's no hope but could they be wrong? Has anyone ever been wrong about this sort of thing ? If it is cancer how much pain will he be in ? Are there alternatives to chemo? Does CBD oil work ? 

  • Hello Lea1983,

    Welcome to Cancer Chat and I'm sorry to hear about your dad.

    I'm sure our community will be able to share their experiences. There is a page of various topics to do with lung cancer here. I'm very sorry that you have to wait for the results, but this advice here might be able to help. If you need to speak to someone your dad's nurses are the best poeple. You can also contact our cancer nurses on the freephone 0808 800 4040. Lines are open from Monday to Friday between 9am and 5pm.

    Best wishes to you both,

    Moderator Anastasia

  • Thank you Anastasia.

    We are going for blood results this morning now. I have taken the number you gave me and will give it to dad and my sister and mum. 

    I hope you have a good day and,once again , thank you .