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Chemo or no chemo.

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Recently been diagnosed with liver/kidney and cancer in my lymph nodes. They said it isn't curable. But they have offered me chemo but they said I'd have to go into hospital to have it done over 2 days and that scares me. I feel alone with it all at the moment too. I got a partner but I don't like to put pressure on her too much but I'm really struggling with my emotions and what to do for the best. Is there any point putting my body through the chemo if the end is still I lose my battle to this disease. What have others done in this kind of situation. 

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    Hello,

               terrible situation to have to face,and making decisions with your emotions all over the place is nigh on impossible.But somehow you have got to find that special space/place that you can retreat into that provides you with some comfort and a degree of peace to allow you to examine your predicament in clear terms.Its a big ask,but if thats possible only then will you ever be able to reconcile with yourself that you have made the right choice.

    Some years ago l was as torn as you today,with the biggest decision of my life to date,somehow l managed to find a window of clear calm and make my decision.Ultimately it proved right,but more importantly as my body was being trashed by the treatment,it enabled me never to question or look back if l had taken the right path,only to focus completely on being positive and doing everything l needed, to allow it the best chance.

    Sorry l cannot tell you where or how,that is yours alone to work out,only the why,and even this seems so pathetically little,l so wish it could be more.l can only hope for you that your journey proves easier than you now fear,

                                      David

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    Hello,

               terrible situation to have to face,and making decisions with your emotions all over the place is nigh on impossible.But somehow you have got to find that special space/place that you can retreat into that provides you with some comfort and a degree of peace to allow you to examine your predicament in clear terms.Its a big ask,but if thats possible only then will you ever be able to reconcile with yourself that you have made the right choice.

    Some years ago l was as torn as you today,with the biggest decision of my life to date,somehow l managed to find a window of clear calm and make my decision.Ultimately it proved right,but more importantly as my body was being trashed by the treatment,it enabled me never to question or look back if l had taken the right path,only to focus completely on being positive and doing everything l needed, to allow it the best chance.

    Sorry l cannot tell you where or how,that is yours alone to work out,only the why,and even this seems so pathetically little,l so wish it could be more.l can only hope for you that your journey proves easier than you now fear,

                                      David

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