Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear of your prognosis,  it's a real tough blow for you.

I'm not in the same situation as you but just wanted to let you know chemo can be OK, if you decided on that. I personally have been very lucky with no suffering per se, just feel a bit weird for a few days with the steroids. Insomnia,  increased appetite,  a day or so of zombification. But everyone is different and I have typically 3 hour sessions every 3 weeks, not the same as your option, of course. 

Of course all your emotions are up in the air at the moment,  understandably. Try and get lots of information and then you can make a measured decision. I would say give chemo a go, if it buys you time it's worth a shot. There may well be trials with new drugs, you never know what might be available to you.

Good luck and I'll be thinking of you.  There's lots of lovely people on this forum to talk to who will understand what you're going through. It's very early days for you right now, with lots of uncertainty,  which is tough. But once you know more info and can have a chat through your options, you should hopefully get some more clarity.

Take care and good luck!

Rachael 

Hello,

I am sorry to hear what you are going through and the dilemma you are facing with chemo.

I watched a Horizon documentary last night by Hannah Fry called Making sense if cancer which explores this dilemma. It should be on bbc iplayer and is definitely worth a watch.

You are the only person who can decide what feels best for you but having as much information as possible is a good place to start.

Wishing you the best

Lou

Hello,

           terrible situation to have to face,and making decisions with your emotions all over the place is nigh on impossible.But somehow you have got to find that special space/place that you can retreat into that provides you with some comfort and a degree of peace to allow you to examine your predicament in clear terms.Its a big ask,but if thats possible only then will you ever be able to reconcile with yourself that you have made the right choice.

Some years ago l was as torn as you today,with the biggest decision of my life to date,somehow l managed to find a window of clear calm and make my decision.Ultimately it proved right,but more importantly as my body was being trashed by the treatment,it enabled me never to question or look back if l had taken the right path,only to focus completely on being positive and doing everything l needed, to allow it the best chance.

Sorry l cannot tell you where or how,that is yours alone to work out,only the why,and even this seems so pathetically little,l so wish it could be more.l can only hope for you that your journey proves easier than you now fear,

                                  David

It would extend your life and give you more time, right? And do involve your partner. 

I know a lady who is living with metastatic cancer for 14 years already. On chemo pretty much all the time. 

I guess it depends on each individual but i would just go for it.