Hi Wilbert,

Welcome to our forum.

I am so sorry to hear of your husband's situation. This must have left you both devastated. One thing that I have discovered in my 12 year journey with 2 bouts of breast cancer, is that there is no point in worrying about 'what ifs' - life is too precious to waste on what might never happen. Instead look on the positives and seize the day. It is good news that he is managing better with the stent. Try to make the most of each and every day and make memories where you can.

Please keep in touch and let us know how you get on. We are always here for both of you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thank you so much My husband's case is going to mdt and we are hoping the oncologist may have suggestions  I've found some good information here about treatment options We are also hoping  the bloods yesterday will show an improvement in his kidney function Once the stent was in he passed  just over a litre of urine which had obviously been backing up It was constant uti's which has led us to were we are now 

Thanks again Had his 4th booster today so we combined it with breakfast out at one of our favourite restaurant 

Best wishes

Wilbert x

Hi Wilbert,

Maybe you just caught him on a bad day? It is often a good idea to write down any questions you have for your consultant before you attend your appointment. I usually go with 2 sets of questions - 1 for my husband and 1 for myself. As I ask the questions, he writes down the answers. This has been so helpful, as we don't forget to ask important questions and the consultant can't overlook questions he doesn't like.

It will certainly do no harm to ask for a second opinion and you are perfectly within your right to ask for this.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

I took list of questions first visit but was expecting good news this time  I  have a long list for next visit Good idea to take 2 pads husband can ask and I will write the answers 

Thank you so much 

Wilbert x

Hi Wilbert,

I and many others on this forum find this helpful.

Do please keep in touch and let us know how you get on.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Will do 

thank you 

Wilbert xx

We have been thrown a lifeline Surgeon rang my husband's kidney function has improved since the stent was fitted and he now feels removal of the kidney and ureter is viable He is transferring my husband to his NHS list at a large teaching hospital not too far from where we live in Manchester Obviously lot of tests etc before surgery and the prospect is scary But hey live to fight  another day 

Thank you for your helpful replies

Wilbert 

Hi Wilbert,

This sounds a lot more hopeful. Yes, there are bound to be other tests prior to any procedure and the prospect of surgery is always scary, but it's great to hear that this is a possibility again. I hope that this will be carried out soon, thus helping to reduce your anxiety. 

Please keep in touch and let us know how he is getting on and remember that we are always here for you.

I am hoping and praying for a good outcome.
Kind regards,

Jolamine 

Thank you so much my anxiety levels are much reduced and I can look at the sweet peas we put in last week without wondering if my husband will see them flower 

Very best wishes 

Wilbert x

Hi Wilbert,

i am delighted to hear that you are feeling less anxious now. If your sweet peas are growing like mine, he'll definitely be here to see them flower.

It's so good that you've got some positive results.

Kind regards,

Jolamine 

Thank you xx

Mr W had a scan on Friday at Dept of nuclear medicine This morning we had a phone call asking us to attend an appt to see the consultant  this Friday 

Didnt expect things to move so quickly I'm terrified it's bad news 

Wilbert 

Mr W had a scan on Friday at Dept of nuclear medicine This morning we had a phone call asking us to attend an appt to see the consultant  this Friday 

Didnt expect things to move so quickly I'm terrified it's bad news 

Wilbert 

Hi Wilbert,

I am glad to hear that the scan has been done. The wait for the reslts is always a worrying time, but it's good that you don't have long to wait for the results. Getting the results so quickly has no bearing on the outcome, so try not to panic. I hope that all goes well on Friday.

Kind regards,

Jolamine xx

Thanks you  I have just googled the dept website and it seems they operate a quick turn round on results 

We are now going to a major teaching hospital attached to a university Its huge like a small town quite a change from our previous hospital which once was a workhouse 

Best wishes 

Wilbert

Hi Wilbert,

I expect that the bigger hospital has access to more machinery and can process everything 'in house, which will make things quicker. Operating a quick turnaround on results is a great help to patients, as we imagine all sort of things at this stage.

Kind regards,

Jolamine 

Certainly  do xx