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I have Breast cancer

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I am totally in shock.

i thought I had prepared myself for the bad news but nothing could've prepared me. I have calcifications they are cancer and there is quite a lot of it apparently and it has spread to my lymph nodes in my armpit.

From what I can gather I need chemo, mastectomy and radiotherapy. I am having scans and blood tests on Friday to determine how bad it is and if it is inflammatory breast cancer, and what I read about that does not sound good. I am a single parent to a four-year-old boy and I am absolutely petrified that I'm going to die and leave him with no parents. I am still in shock and I don't think I really took in all of the information and I just don't understand why this is happening to me. I know that everyone probably feel like that but I am only 40 years old, I adopted my son after trying for a biological child for years and many miscarriages. Just when my life seems to be coming together this has happened. I am so scared of what this means for my son. I don't care about me, I only care about him and what this means for him. 

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    Hi Poppins

    i feel your pain. I'm a mother if a 12  year old adhd boy who is constantly needing hugs and cuddles. I'm 53 and a single parent. 
    I also have 2 calcification areas that have just been biopsied. I'm awaiting results. But the radiologist informed me it didn't look good. All I can hope from that it means she thinks it is cancer and not how bad it is. My head is also screwed and I can't function. Her words just keep going round and round. I find iut Monday csi not really wanting to go for results but no I must. Gutted 

    let's hope your results are better than what your thinking and if not I'm sure there is solutions. I def would go for a mastectomy if given the chance now as all my family also have had cancer of breast. 
    hope your ok and can reach out to someone. It's hard by yourself and I didn't realise that till right now. When you need someone. X 

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    All of this is so hard to get your head around, you need to look after yourself. Ive been signed off work since February as  I can’t concentrate on anything for longer than 15 minutes.

    I’m now 6 weeks post op, had a lumpectomy and sentinel nodes out after they found my cancer through my first ever mammogram.

    The NHS definitely know how to look after you. 

    Take each day as it comes and use this site and Macmillan on line community. Lots of support and advice when you need it.

    Fingers crossed for your results on Monday x

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    All of this is so hard to get your head around, you need to look after yourself. Ive been signed off work since February as  I can’t concentrate on anything for longer than 15 minutes.

    I’m now 6 weeks post op, had a lumpectomy and sentinel nodes out after they found my cancer through my first ever mammogram.

    The NHS definitely know how to look after you. 

    Take each day as it comes and use this site and Macmillan on line community. Lots of support and advice when you need it.

    Fingers crossed for your results on Monday x

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