Hi [@poppins81]‍ 

I am so sorry about your diagnosis and that you are feeling so anxious and worried. Your post was very similar to me 8 months ago when I was diagnosed with a 6cm tumor Grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma HER2+, also in my Lymph nodes.

I know exactley how you are feeling right now. My head was everywhere and naturally I thought the worst, like you are now. You will gain lots of support from this forum. 

 I had 6 rounds of chemo, it was hard but doeable. The chemo worked and shrunk the tumor to nothing which meant I could have a lumpectomy instead of a masectomy, I had surgery 6 weeks ago to remove the tissue where the tumor was and my lymph nodes. I got the pathology results and had a patholgical complete response, which meant they got everything and the chemo had done its job. I now have to have radiotherapy which I will be starting soon.

I just want you to know that there is more good outcomes than bad and that the treatment plan you will be given will be designed to you to give you the best outcome possible. Anything you need to know or you just want to rant or chat, give me a shout. Try not to google, as it does not help and alot of it is out of date. 

Have you been given an appointment to see an oncologist? Once you have a treatment plan you will beable to focus on that, its the waiting that really is the hardest part.

Sending you a big virtual hug xx

Thank you so much for your message. I am an absolute wreck at the moment. I've only really just been able to react because I've had my son and then my friend came round here I was able to talk to you but then she left and I just completely broke down. I have a pet scan and bloods and a biopsy of the skin on Friday and I should hear about the oncologist very soon. I only found out today. I'm just terrified of what's gong to happen over the next few months, year however long it takes. They don't know yet if they want me to do the surgery first or the chemo. But from the sounds of it they need to remove the whole breast . I just want it gone, because I just want to be with my son.

[@poppins81]‍ 

Aww bless you. Is there anyone who  can come and stay with you? 

The waiting and not knowing is absolutley awful. Have you been told that it might be inflammatory bc? I was told I had calcifications at the begining and that there was alot bunched together.

You will results soon, then hopefully you will then know alot more. I was an absolute wreck Im 48 with 3 daughters, but I was and still am determined Im not going anywhere. 

I am here if you need me

[@poppins81]‍ 

Been thinking about you today.

I hope you’re coping and today is ok. Hopefully you’ll know more and have a better understanding of what’s going to happen now.

Take care x

[@poppins81]‍ 

Been thinking about you today.

I hope you’re coping and today is ok. Hopefully you’ll know more and have a better understanding of what’s going to happen now.

Take care x