Mastectomy

I found out today that I might need a mastectomy. I've been crying all day. In the space of a few weeks it has went from removal of cancer with breast lift to now a reduction or mastectomy depending if we get clear margins or not from my first op to remove cancer. If I need a mastectomy I won't qualify for reconstruction due to my BMI which isn't massively over the requirement. I'm really struggling with it all. I feel that I'm being vain when I should be lucky that my cancer is early and treatable. 

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  • Hi Twinmum.

    Really sorry to hear you have received this news today. Its OK to cry and you are not being vain at all. The idea of losing a part of you is totally terrifying and any breast surgery and cancer diagnosis no matter how early and treatable has a huge effect on a person mentally and physically.

    What was it that changed the treatment plan for you? 

    Be kind to yourself! You never have to apologise for how you are feeling.

    Sending hugs x

     

  • Thank you for the reply. 

    When I went to get my magseed ultrasound they ended up doing more biopsies as there was another area they weren't sure about which turned out to be cancerous too. I have 5 small areas over a section of my breast. I do have large breasts so hoping the reduction works out. Xx

  • Thank you!

    I'm doing ok. Sore. But otherwise fine. Taking it easy and trying to rest!!

    Not long to go now...hang in there, the last few days will go so quickly.

    Keep busy, and look after yourself xx

  • How are you feeling now?

    I had my covid test today and my dye thing is tomorrow. 

    Feeling very nervous. Xx

  • Hey!

    I'm doing ok. Sore and uncomfortable and the itching is kicking in.....just wanna rip the dressings off and have a good scratch haha. Also tired still but guess that will last a while.

    I didn't have a dye.....what's that for?

    Try not to worry (as if that's possible) but honestly the surgery was way less traumatic than expected.

    You've got this! Xx

  • Oh I can imagine how uncomfortable you'll be and the itching omg! Can't wait for that. 

    I'm dreading having two 4yo boys jumping about me. Thankfully Grandparents are taking them for a couple of nights. 

    It's the dye injection for lymph node biopsy that they will do along with surgery. They will remove a couple of nodes just to make sure there isn't any spread.

    Keep resting up xx

  • Ah I see! Yes that makes sense. They didn't do anything to my lymph nodes.

    Grandparents are a god send aren't they! I have (one!) four year old so she spent two nights with Granny!!! Don't think we would have coped with her here wanting to play with mummy all weekend!!!

    Hope tomorrow goes OK and sending all the positive vibes for surgery day xx

  • Yea! So lucky to have great support around us. My Husband's boss has been fantastic and he is working from home this week and taking a couple of days holidays he needed to use up anyway so he'll be able to run after me Haha! It'll make a change.

    4 year olds are hard work aren't they? Lol. I'd take the baby stage over and over.

    Thank you, will let you know how it all goes. Xx

  • Hard work but fun!!!! My daughter has so much attitude its hilarious! But yes, knackering haha!!

    Good to hear your husband's work have been so good. Its another weight lifted isn't it!!

    Lots of love xx

  • Sending hugs and positive vibes for your surgery today (it is today isn't it?!?).

    Hope all went well and by the time you read this you will be home, comfortable and being looked after.

    Xx

  • Yes it was today! It went well and I first taken and out and woke in recovery around 12pm. Didn't leave until 4 as I felt really sick and dizzy and also by the time my surgeon came to see me. Been home in bed since about 5pm dozing on and off. Not as dore as I thought, the worst bit is where they took nodes from. Now for the two week wait. 

     

    Hope you're good. Xx

  • Yay!

    Really glad that it went well and you are home where you belong to recuperate.

    I was the same, really not that sore, so that's good news! Fingers crossed it stays that way. 

    Have a good sleep! And try not to think about the next wait for results just yet. Concentrate on feeling better! 

    Wishing you a super speedy recovery. Lots of love x

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  • Yay!

    Really glad that it went well and you are home where you belong to recuperate.

    I was the same, really not that sore, so that's good news! Fingers crossed it stays that way. 

    Have a good sleep! And try not to think about the next wait for results just yet. Concentrate on feeling better! 

    Wishing you a super speedy recovery. Lots of love x

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