Hi Mid30

Firstly I'm so sorry that you are going through it, it's a dreadful shock isn't it. 
I had a very similar experience to you in that I went to clinic thinking I had a cyst only to have mammogram, ultrasound and biopsies. I was also taken into a room with consultant, specialist nurse, Macmillan nurse and one other person although I can remember who that was. They asked me if I was still working, let me know my results would be about 2 weeks and I might need some time off work. Also said that next time I saw them it would be for a treatment plan and to bring someone with me. Macmillan nurse stayed behind and spoke to me some more. 
i left with the impression that they feel it is suspicious but I am also aware that until the biopsy results are back it is not a done deal. I get my results next Wed 26th Jan.

it is an impossible situation, you don't know either way. At the minute I am hoping for the best, expecting the worst. But also knowing whatever it is I will deal with it, as will you.

sending you positive thoughts, I so hope that we both have better news than we hope 

x

Hi Meadowsweet

I'm so sorry to hear that you are also going through a very similar situation, this part is just so hard! 

I'm the same as you in regards to thinking just how can they be so sure, I think i'm just hanging on to any positivity from my appointment the other day (and there really wasn't much), I think I'm desperately scouring the internet for something or someone to tell me they could have it wrong but so far I haven't found any answers like that! 
 

My appointment has actually been moved to today so I haven't really been to sleep, my doctors prescribed me something to help me sleep and that didn't even help, my anxiety is so bad! 
 

I hope and pray that we both get some good results, whether that be cancer free or if it is present that it will be low grade and stage and we can get through it quickly.

I'll update here with my results later today.

Thinking of you x
 

Best of luck for today x

My wife's story reads similar to yours.

She was told she more or less had it and not to go home thinking it was anything but cancer. They do get it wrong sometimes, but that's supposedly very rare. But it does happen.

You're caught between a rock and a hard place to be honest. Go home and hang onto the slither of positivity only to get it knocked out of you yet again, or come to terms with it so the actual conformation day isn't you going home starting the process all over again.

We chose to accept that it was and anything else was just a dream or bonus. When the conformation day came, it wasn't devastating all over again. But different people deal with situations differently. There is no right or wrong way so don't go beating yourself up if you choose to deal with it in your own way.

I think because they see it everyday they can see what is cancer and what is something else but also sometimes there's a very faint line between cancer and Fibroadenoma. I have everything crossed for you. I'm in the same boat too. 

Hi everyone,

thank you for your messages, it was confirmed yesterday that it is stage 2, grade 3 breast cancer, HER2+ so I will be starting chemo in the next 2-3 weeks, alongside herceptin and another drug used to suppress my ovaries due to my cancer feeding off of Estrogen. Once chemo has finished they hope I will need just a lumpectomy so to remove the remaining and the surrounding tissue, fingers crossed it stays that way! 
 

As much as this is rubbish news, I feel more positive than before when I was living in limbo, not sure what was going to happen, at least I know my treatment plan now! 
 

I hope for better results for those of you who are still waiting ♥️
 

Hello

firstly I am sending so many positive vibes to you and your way of thinking is amazing and utterly true. They got back to you so quickly. I received a letter saying a phone call in two weeks time. Did they call you with the news? What did they say the wait would be? I think being in limbo is just the worst and although being told what you have been which must be incredibly hard you now have a plan of action xx

Glad you came away from yesterday with positivity. Again, like yourself, my wife also has the same type and grade as you. She was on EC (4 cycles), and now on another chemo for 3 cycles. What they're gonna do op wise will be decided once the chemo is done and dusted at the beginning of March. Because the chemo has worked so well thus far (midway scans), they said if the next chemo melts it, she might not even get radiotherapy. So that's a bonus. At the beginning of this, radiotherapy was nailed on, but yeah, her response has been very good on the EC and that wasn't even the chemo that was supposed to do the proper damage to the cancer, it was supposed to be the chemo she's on now. So they've knocked one cycle of the 4 off.

Hopefully you get the same response and the op isn't so invasive.

Hey I was in the same boat and they told me it was cancer without telling me it was cancer. I think they know by looking but are not allowed to say until biopsy back.

sending strength and well wishes for chemo. It's unpleasant but totally doable!!