I would caution against underplaying things when telling your kids.

Whilst i appreciate they are no longer "kids" kids if that makes sense, they're still kids to you.

Telling them half truths, making things sound overly positive, will only backfire if you do run into some hiccups. Kids deal with things a lot better if they feel they are being fed the truth. We have a daughter ourselves that will soon be starting her exams, and as an added bonus, suffers from bad anxiety. So we were about to do what you are planning to do. But we got told a firm no from both the nurses and doctors. Kids deal better with the truth than being told half truths.

If they think you're keeping things to yourself, they are more likely to get anxiety surrounding your diagnosis and more likely to close themselves off to you when it comes to how they are feeling. When we told our daughter, we parroted exactly what we were being told. She seems to be dealing with it very well because we have her trust that we are being upfront with her. Underplaying things would have led to her being a state when something did need treated in hospital outside of the usual treatment.

I would caution against underplaying things when telling your kids.

Whilst i appreciate they are no longer "kids" kids if that makes sense, they're still kids to you.

Telling them half truths, making things sound overly positive, will only backfire if you do run into some hiccups. Kids deal with things a lot better if they feel they are being fed the truth. We have a daughter ourselves that will soon be starting her exams, and as an added bonus, suffers from bad anxiety. So we were about to do what you are planning to do. But we got told a firm no from both the nurses and doctors. Kids deal better with the truth than being told half truths.

If they think you're keeping things to yourself, they are more likely to get anxiety surrounding your diagnosis and more likely to close themselves off to you when it comes to how they are feeling. When we told our daughter, we parroted exactly what we were being told. She seems to be dealing with it very well because we have her trust that we are being upfront with her. Underplaying things would have led to her being a state when something did need treated in hospital outside of the usual treatment.

Thankyou ProfBaw,

You know your own Children, you do what you think is best for them, I know what's best for my boys, everyone's situations are different, only you know what's best and you do what you want to do.  
 

love Sarah