Got my diagnosis of Transitional Cell Cancer in the kidneys.... I understand ! I have been nothing but so tearful and sometimes histerical I the bath . I get engulfed with emotions so easily especially when I talk about it.. Will be having my left kidney removed with the ureter . Sometimes I feel I can't wait for all out but thinking of the op also upsets me . Its so very hard to process it all. My children are so affected by it all. My bro is worried sick so the whole thing has affected not just me but friends and family . But we can do it... we can beat the monster Cancer and let's keep strong and fight it for our children's,  family and friends sake and most of it ourselves . Sending you .  Stay strong  

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Thank you xxx sending you love and positive thoughts xx

You defo can do this - kick its butt!  xxx

Hi hun,

I know how you feel. I'm 38 with two sons. 
This is the worst you will feel, once you have your treatment plan you will feel a weight lifted, I had a lumpectomy and have just started Chemo for IDC stage1 grade 3 node negative, Her2- oestrogen Fed.

Once you have everything out on the table you will be able to build your life back from there. I'm sorry your going through this. 
Best wishes Sarah 

Dear Sarah

Your words mean the world - thank you xx

I'm sorry you're going through this too xx

I would caution against underplaying things when telling your kids.

Whilst i appreciate they are no longer "kids" kids if that makes sense, they're still kids to you.

Telling them half truths, making things sound overly positive, will only backfire if you do run into some hiccups. Kids deal with things a lot better if they feel they are being fed the truth. We have a daughter ourselves that will soon be starting her exams, and as an added bonus, suffers from bad anxiety. So we were about to do what you are planning to do. But we got told a firm no from both the nurses and doctors. Kids deal better with the truth than being told half truths.

If they think you're keeping things to yourself, they are more likely to get anxiety surrounding your diagnosis and more likely to close themselves off to you when it comes to how they are feeling. When we told our daughter, we parroted exactly what we were being told. She seems to be dealing with it very well because we have her trust that we are being upfront with her. Underplaying things would have led to her being a state when something did need treated in hospital outside of the usual treatment.

Thankyou ProfBaw,

You know your own Children, you do what you think is best for them, I know what's best for my boys, everyone's situations are different, only you know what's best and you do what you want to do.  
 

love Sarah