My Uncle stole all my Grandmother's money

There is not many people I can go to right now. I just need to vent how I feel. 

We recently found out that my uncle stole every cent that was in my Grandmother's account and was empty by the time she had died. She passed away from cancer within 2 months of being diagnosed.

She had assisted him with his legal fees when he was going through his divorce. After my Grandfather died 3 years ago their house was repossessed because this uncle whom the mortgage belonged to (Grandparent's were emigrating to the US. He lived in the US so he placed the mortgage and they paid each month) didn't make payments. She effectively lost her home and was moved into my ex-aunt's Mothers house. She lost her independence and livelihood.

For all this time I thought my uncle to be caring and considerate and my Grandmother would support him. Her weakness was being a people pleaser. She would keep silent to keep the peace and she was incredibly motherly. She simply couldn't bear to see her any of her sons in pain. 

His other two brothers had tried to tell her to stop bailing him out. She only received $35,000 from my Grandfather after he died. She would need all of this to keep herself afloat and my Uncle's legal fees were in the thousands. She would get annoyed at them and say they did not understand her and that she would never leave her son out helpless. I supported her because she had such strong convictions on this. Looking back, I wish, I wish, I wish I could have seen through him.

Last week my other Uncle went by and found out that this Uncle was withdrawing hundreds of dollars out her account A DAY. Not just this but somehow, someway my other Uncle was tarred as the materialistic one, the one who didn't want her around and because he has a very successful career it became easy to tar him with that brush. 

I want to turn back time and warn her and awaken her to the hell she lived in. She had no peace, nothing. She was left in the house for months and months. She wouldn't ask to be taken out because she didn't want to burden my uncle.

I am so unbelievably angry, horrified, shocked, disgusted and any other word that can fit under the umbrella of those. 

This 'man', this parasite sent me a silly video yesterday, a weird video, of him flailing about and making strange sounds with his voice, as if he was going a bit mad.

I can't believe this person exploited my beautiful Grandmother like this. 

May she rest in peace now that she is away from her abuser :'(((

 

 

  • OMG I totally understand how you feel!

    My awesome uncle was going through a divorce, from his second wife (1st & 2nd wives both had affairs) both excuses were he was tooo nice and gave them everything they wanted .

    Solicitor said he needed to change his will to remove, his words "she's a gold digger wanting everything". So will changed, left it for my other uncle to sort......bad mistake!!!

    My uncle passed away a few days later in his sleep! Totally gutted and heart broken.

    My uncle left has 3 sisters and their mother. My uncle's girlfriend (miss know it all) who wears the trousers has refused to see the family ok, which would have made them all living comfortable for the rest of their lives. My uncle would be turning in his grave, he would never in a million years thought my uncle would of treated his family in this way. Miss know it all has been on numerous holidays, new cars, and sorted out her family with all the same including extension and new driveway!!

    Fuming, I always said he needed to 'grow a pair' his excuse is well he has to think of 'his' family now as life is too short!

    My Nan has now said she's lost both sons and is totally heartbroken, my Nan is in her 90's, and doesn't need this.

    The old saying is.....you can pick your friends.....but stuck with family.

    Now, I know both our situations aren't identical, but I can understand all your feelings, you'll never forget what has happened and I'm sure your grandmother would feel totally upset that this has happened, and would be gutted how this has upset the rest of the family.

    Keep smiling, and keep you chin up, I'm sure your grandmother would want you feeling like this.

    Sending love & hugs

    Shaz