My husband finished his cancer treatment a year ago. He had head and neck cancer. He has been able to return to work which he needed for his sanity as well as financial. Things are so different now and I’m struggling to cope. He can’t eat food so uses meal shakes and the odd puréed meal and is always exhausted. So from a social point of view, we don’t go out as most social arrangements involve eating. Our children (who are adults) have become creative with ways of celebrating such as bowling for birthdays etc but we are excluded from other events or he will refuse to attend. He won’t consider a holiday due to the complications of his food needs and insurance. 

I’m 49 and I feel like we’re old before our time. Is anyone else the partner of someone in a similar situation? How do you manage this? Will it get better?

please don’t think I’m being ungrateful and moany. I’m so happy to have him present in our lives but struggling to see a way forward.