A very warm welcome to the Cancer Chat community Rosie although I'm really sorry to hear what has happened and for the reason you are joining us.

This must be an incredibly difficult time but our community are here for you Rosie, and I'm sure it won't be long until some of our members stop by to offer their support and advice.

If you would like to talk to someone about this you can contact the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247, or through their live chat services that are available Monday - Friday between 3p.m - 10p.m. They are free to contact and offer confidential, non-judgemental information and support to anyone who is experiencing any form of domestic abuse or violence.

You can also seek further support and advice from Refuge and Woman's Aid, the latter of which has a really useful guide on how to leave your relationship safely. They also provide a live chat service and a directory which lists up to date information about local support services.

If you feel comfortable discussing this with your GP, they can also signpost you to local domestic abuse services in your area and offer emotional support to you at this time as well.

I really hope this helps Rosie and when you are ready, are able to separate from your partner in an amicable and stress-free way.

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Thank you for all this very helpful information Steph.

I separated just yesterday and haven’t slept a wink. It is really hard. Have you got a domestic abuse team in your area. Their advice is invaluable. I am so stressed and having panic attacks but it will all be worth it I hope. The police were amazing. 2 came to the house and helped me gather all the things I needed for now, whilst fending off his usual remarks. I really thought they would arrest him but they didn’t. They helped pack everything up load it into the car and deliver it to my new address. People are against the police but they must have spent 3 hours with me. Just to let you know there is help out there. Good luck xxxx