Hello, I’m new to this whole talking to Cancer research group, I’m after some advice or maybe some of you have been going through similar. My partner had bowel cancer treatment in April and luckily they only removed half of the bowel, he recovered well, which I’m over the moon about as I’ve been struggling with anxiety and panic attacks.
A couple of months after my partner had his treatment he’s settled back into work things are going good but I’m finding his personality and outlook on life is damn right miserable, it also has a rub off effect on me and I suffer with low mood anyway. Everything he does he’s negative, if he’s got a bad cold or cough he blames on severe illness, he had bleeding in his bowel the other day and wouldn’t call a doctor after everything he’s gone through? I’m in a position where I’m sick and tired of even suggesting anything because I feel like no matter what I say it’s the wrong answer and most things come back as “I’ve got cancer I’m allowed to feel depressed or worried etc” he had cancer and they removed it. I feel like I can’t talk to my partner and support him. Sympathy is very difficult it just turns into an argument. Is this normal for someone who’s had cancer and is their any support? Thank you.