Cried for the first time

Hi everyone. For the first time tonight I've cried since I had my diagnosis and surgery.  

Had lumpectomy on 28 th march. Went well and pleased with the external scars.

But tonight while I showered I felt aroundy breast now that the swelling have gone down a little and was horrified by what I felt below the surface of the skin. 

The hard jaggied edges and gapping dent that was once my breast and look ok on the surface but is so different below, that it makes me feel sick to touch. How can I expect my partner to touch if if I can't.

I know it's early days and still have more treatment ahead, but how do you deal with the feelings of loss and discuss at your own breast. 

Have been so strong up till now.

Have any of you had reconstruction surgery after lumpectomy and if so did you feel happier with your breast after

My surgeon was dismissive of reconstruction being needed. So not sure where to go and who to ask. 

  • Pauline 

    how are you now hope you are ok 

    not long now for results it has seemed a long time waiting hope you are doing well and recovered xx 

    love Lara ️

  • Lucky you. I have a very very low pain threshold.  Xx

  • Hi Lara doing much better now. Pulled my socks up and marching onwards. Hopefully not to much longer for results. BCN thought 4 weeks from surgery. So another 2 weeks to go. Xx

  • Pauline 

    You are strong your posts remind me of how I was no moaning just socks up get on with it it's the best way I think I never give in nlt gif one day keep the positive going 

    take care love Lara ️

  • Thanks sweetie will do. Xx

  • Hi Pauline,

    You've been so positive so far that you were bound to have a wobble - we all do from time to time. Don't worry about crying, you'll find that this is a great stress release valve. I expect that you've now gathered that you cannot expect your recently operated on breast tissue to fee anything like normal yet. I have had both a lumpectomy and a double mastectomy. Unfortunately, I couldn't have reconstruction, due to other, non-cancer related surgeries. 

    After my lumpectomy, my tissue was gradually beginning to feel more normal, when I discovered another lump in the same breast and had to have the mastectomies. You may always be aware of a thickening of scar tissue where your tissue has healed and it is easy to mistake this for another lump. I am 13 years down the line now, but my breast tissue is just as soft as it used to be - the only trouble is that I have to rely on an assortment of prostheses to see me through various activities.

    I now look on what I'm left with as my battle scars. Irrespective of how I look, I am still the same person inside and I am proud to say that I have been through surgery and treatment and that I have been fortunate enough to have come through the other side. I am sure that you will soon have your positive pants on again too!

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thanks jolamine. Yes I've pulled my socks up after my wobble. Glad to here the the hard edges will eventually soften. Thanks for that. The scars aren't bad at all just the tissue inside. No the dreaded wait for results before the next move. I'm proud to be with the rest of our worriors that have survived this horrible desease. Love and praise to all here xxx

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    Hi Pauline,

    I'm glad to hear that you are back on track with this. The tissue will probably never be totally the same as it was before, but it will become better than it is at present. We all gain additional strengths when we face a cancer diagnosis. You are gettng closer to your results and it will release a lot of your pressure, when you get them.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx