Hi John,

A very warm welcome to the forum.

This post is 3 years old and I'm not sure whether Botwinkle is still active on the forum. I am sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It is good to see that you have finished radiotherapy and I hope that the hormone implants are working for you. 

You are certainly not alone with how you are feeling! Regardless of what type of cancer, many of us tend to feel like this. I am now 16 years down the line from 2 bouts of breast cancer and can relate to what you say. Unless your family and friends have previously been touched by cancer, they have little idea of what a diagnosis entails.

If you put some key words related to how you feel in the "search forum" box at the top of this page, you'll find more recent posts from others who feel the same.

People often complain about losing friends when they get a cancer diagnosis. Initially, I did lose some people, who I had considered to be good friends and I was upset about this. Since then, I have made far more genuine friends, who have appeared from some most unexpected quarters. I have discovered that a positive attitude to our situation is a great help in coping with this disease and, as my attitude has become more positive throughout the years, I have become more successful in making friends.

Loneliness can be a big problem too. It is hard to get out to meet people when we are tied up with treatments, not feeling well or are too fatigued to venture out - we don't meet many people when we're sitting in our own homes!

I hope that, with the passage of time, you will be less dejected by how you feel. Now that you have found this forum, you need never feel lonely again. There is always someone here to chat and offer advice or support.

Please keep in touch. We are always here for you.

Kind regards,

Jolamine