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Am I feeling sorry for myself?

Debbie09
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Hi I'm 8 months post radiotherapy for throat cancer. My throat is still sore and swollen. 4weeks ago I fell down the stairs and broke my wrist the thing is my family ( not my husband) have all thought I'm ok now and breaking my wrist absurdly done me a favour. I was very stoic during my treatment and have tried to carry on but I still get exhausted (65) so the upshot is my daughter has started to ask me to have her children ( 12 and 10 ) which I have been doing but I get very tired and my husband said to tell her but I can't I don't want her to feel bad and because it's been nearly a year since my diagnosis I feel they probably think well your over it now get on with it and the thing is I agree my head says I should indeed be over it now but my body disagreess. So the thing is I don't know what's right or wrong or how I should feel and it's really bringing me down. I wonder if anyone else has experienced the same thing especially with the expectation of there family oh and on top of that I feel guilty about feeling like this can anyone help please

kindest regards Debbie x

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  • Offline in reply to Optimistic2022

    Hi 

    Thankyou so much for replying to my post. It's so true about the understanding it definitely seems to have dwindled the general concensus feels like I should be over it now. It will be a year in October when my radiotherapy finished and I agree it's only now it's hitting me more emotionally, I feel I have changed which has surprised me. I feel a conversation is needed with my daughter and the rest of my family. The way you describe it as draining is so apt, I will work on my stamina Thankyou once again for taking the time to reply to me 

    kindest regards Debbie 

  • Offline in reply to Debbie09

    Thank you everyone for this interesting post.            My family  think now chemotherapy finished I am better now got radiotherapy  for 10 days still worn out taking one day at a time stay strong everyone x

  • Offline in reply to lobelia

    Hi lobelia

    im sorry to hear what your going through, it's such a tough time and you still have more to come. Unfortunately your family can be brilliant for support but they will never understand unless they've been through it themselves, it is a lonely journey but you do get through it even through the toughest times you just have to grit your teeth and dig deep. I wish you all the luck and hope for the best outcome 

    kind regards Debbie 

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