Hi April70, 

I am a mother of two girls, one is the same age as you and the other is 16. Since I was told I had stage 2 endometrial cancer, my biggest worry is how my illness would affect my girls n whether I will live to the time I see them grow up to become independent adults. So when I read your post, my heart hurts. You must have gone through a lot of difficulties when you had to start looking after yourself in a big family without your mom by your side when you were only 10. You must have been an incredibly strong young girl when facing all the difficult physical and emotional needs when going through puberty.  Although you sound lost and confused in your post, your words also show that you are a decent and compassionate young lady who has genuine love and honesty for oneself and others. It is normal that your memory of your mother is fading. People do forget. In this busy world, our lives are so hectic. Even when we try to hold tight, sometimes our memories just slip away. Trust me, I am like you too. 

As a mother who has cancer, my only wish is that my daughters will be living happily as independent and confident adults. I would not mind if they one day forget me as long as their present and future are filled with happiness, purpose and good health. So April70, find your own happiness by living a good life. This will be the best way for you to show your love to your mum. 

Take care!

Best wishes, 

Chui

Hi April70, 

I am a mother of two girls, one is the same age as you and the other is 16. Since I was told I had stage 2 endometrial cancer, my biggest worry is how my illness would affect my girls n whether I will live to the time I see them grow up to become independent adults. So when I read your post, my heart hurts. You must have gone through a lot of difficulties when you had to start looking after yourself in a big family without your mom by your side when you were only 10. You must have been an incredibly strong young girl when facing all the difficult physical and emotional needs when going through puberty.  Although you sound lost and confused in your post, your words also show that you are a decent and compassionate young lady who has genuine love and honesty for oneself and others. It is normal that your memory of your mother is fading. People do forget. In this busy world, our lives are so hectic. Even when we try to hold tight, sometimes our memories just slip away. Trust me, I am like you too. 

As a mother who has cancer, my only wish is that my daughters will be living happily as independent and confident adults. I would not mind if they one day forget me as long as their present and future are filled with happiness, purpose and good health. So April70, find your own happiness by living a good life. This will be the best way for you to show your love to your mum. 

Take care!

Best wishes, 

Chui