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Loss of memories

April70
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Hi there...

I lost my mother to ovarian cancer 10 years ago. I was 11 when I happend so We didn't have that much time together, the problem is that I can't remember anything about her and at sometimes even her face is just a blur. After her death my family had a lot of issues, we were living in a two bed appartment with the 5 of us and are financial situation was not good. I feel like the situation we were in has contributed to my loss of memories but the more I think about not remembering her the worse my mental state has become. 
I do feel guilty about all of this and I'd just like to know if anyone has any advice on how I can move on and not feel so unsettled. 

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  • Hello April70

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with the grief of losing your Mum. Grief never leaves us no matter how long ago you may have lost a loved one and it's natural that from time to time you may feel sad or struggle with your thoughts and feelings. 

    Memories do fade over time and with you having lost your Mum so young it's understandable that you struggle to remember things at times. I don't know if you have a memory box or have ever thought about making one. Somewhere that you can store anything you have that reminds you of your Mum. Maybe photographs, mementos, perhaps you could write down some of your memories about your Mum. Having those things in one place might help on the days when you struggle to remember. 

    I wonder if you might also find it useful to talk to a bereavement counsellor about things. It's never too late to seek support with your emotions and a charity such as Cruse may be able to offer you some help. 

    I hope that this helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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  • Hello April70

    I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with the grief of losing your Mum. Grief never leaves us no matter how long ago you may have lost a loved one and it's natural that from time to time you may feel sad or struggle with your thoughts and feelings. 

    Memories do fade over time and with you having lost your Mum so young it's understandable that you struggle to remember things at times. I don't know if you have a memory box or have ever thought about making one. Somewhere that you can store anything you have that reminds you of your Mum. Maybe photographs, mementos, perhaps you could write down some of your memories about your Mum. Having those things in one place might help on the days when you struggle to remember. 

    I wonder if you might also find it useful to talk to a bereavement counsellor about things. It's never too late to seek support with your emotions and a charity such as Cruse may be able to offer you some help. 

    I hope that this helps. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator 

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