I find the how are you texts annoying (my dad is dying, how do you think i am). The point you made about the msgs just popping up when I'm having an ok time really resonates. That being said i do get annoyed when people don't seem interested. Thinking of you texts are fine as long as no response is required 

Hey,

Sorry to hear your dad is unwell, cancer is such an awful disease. My husband receives the "how are you?" Messages a lot too. It's very hard to live normally when you feel like it's being thrown in your face at every turn.

Its been a while since I first posted this thread and generally the texts have calmed down a lot (however I'm just about to go in for surgery so I guess that will change again). 
 

A close friend was recently diagnosed and I found myself on the other side of it all, I didn't want to bombard them with texts but I also didn't want them to think I didn't care. I found the "thinking of you texts" worked perfectly. Not asking for a reply but letting someone know you care. 

I'm experiencing the opposite to be honest. Yes, I'm getting plenty of support from my family and it's not over the top, it's nice to know they are thinking of me. However, my best friend of 55 years, who I have only seen once since starting my chemo last October is constantly on Facebook, and I know he sees my posts when I have had a bad week, as his wife comments, but, nothing from him and it's making me feel very very sad.

I'm experiencing the opposite to be honest. Yes, I'm getting plenty of support from my family and it's not over the top, it's nice to know they are thinking of me. However, my best friend of 55 years, who I have only seen once since starting my chemo last October is constantly on Facebook, and I know he sees my posts when I have had a bad week, as his wife comments, but, nothing from him and it's making me feel very very sad.