I need advice

Hi, I'm new to the chat and very nervous. My dad has lung cancer and was told on Monday that his cancer has spread to his stomach and he wouldn't survive surgery. I  am devastated. I am trying to come to terms with the diagnosis. Although it's not a priority, but I am getting married in 3 weeks time. I am heartbroken enough that dad won't be able to see me get married, but do I cancel the wedding or still go ahead with it? It's only a small registry office wedding with a reception in a pub but people have booked flights and hotels etc. I am heartbroken. I have spoken to Macmillan who have been great. Dad is going into a hospice this week. I am so upset and don't know how to cope? I've been off work this week but feel under pressure to go back.

  • Hi,

    Have you own marriage ceremony, either at home or at the hospice, before the actual registry office one.

    Your Dad can give you away, you can have your first dance in his presence, have a bit of a party etc . . .

    And you only need a few close family/friends.

    The register office fulfils the legal requirements but a wedding is a personal thing. Or you can make it so.

    Just an idea. All the best.

     

    Regards

    Taff

  • Hi JP How would your Dad feel if you put off the wedding as Taff says the registry is the legal part you can do what ever you wish really. How about asking him for one of the good luck symbols something old/new /borrowed/blue then he will be with you at the ceremony.