Hello islandgirlbda,

I noticed you hadn't yet received a reply so I wanted to make sure I would bump your message back to the top of the forum so that others who may be facing a similar situation can see it and share their thoughts on this with you.

Poor you. This is a very difficult situation for you to be in and I do hope that this forum will bring you a little comfort. I am sure you will meet some wonderfully supportive friends here at a time when you need it the most.

Best wishes,

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

How sad, I really feel for you.  The helplessness and loss of independence is so very stressful. I live alone so I don't have all of your problems but the feeling that I am losing my grip on life is very hard.  Today my daughter came and set up online grocery shopping for me and then sat there whilst I tried to order my shopping.  Having been independent, run an office for 12 years and never needed anyone I suddenly couldnt order a single thing.  I looked at the screen swimming in front of my eyes with nothing making any sense and realised that I truly could not do anything anymore.

I know your situation isnt the same, but this awful disease takes so much from us.  Has your husband explained why he is so worried financially, cancer affects carers in so many ways too.  Have you talked with each other to try to help the situation.

Please come and talk to us, anytime, we all have probkems that we have not had to face before and thereis bound to be someone on here who will be able to help. x