Just come off the phone to Ma and she has said she needs to go into a nursing home as she cannot walk 2 steps without being out of breath and is being sick very often, carer has been but still waiting for district nurse.I have told her to tell nurses how bad she is and hopefully they can start the ball rolling on that. The idea is for her to go into a nursing home nearer to me, tbh I would rather she went straight into a hospice as I know the care there would be second to none but obviously they feel she isnt ready for that yet.

Mum was less confused but of course I had to start crying down the phone didnt I and she had to comfort me......a lot of support I am.

Take care all,

Jacci xx

Oh Jacci, just had to talk to my daughter and then have read your update.  Its lovely that your Mum is able to comfort you (she will still feel useful!!) and its does no good to hide your true feelings - Mums as you know have intuition on how you are any way!!  It will be a weight of both your minds if she is able to be 'cared for' 24/7 and it would be a lot more help for you if she is local (thats what my Mum's social worker arranged when Mum was moved into residential care but now my local council feel she could be cared for 'in the community' hence why they refuse to help with funding but thats another story!!).  The moderator has come up with great idea about calling the nurses and despite your emotions you sound very effecient in handling things - go with your gut feeling and get all the support you need.  Jules xx

Thanks Jules and Ann, feel slightly better now, rang District nurses as they havent come today, the nurse that came on Friday got it wrong, they are coming tomorrow....not impressed.Rang hospice and they are going to go and see Mum tomorrow, I have made the deliberate decision not to be there as I think if Mum is on her own they can really see how she is....very impressed with the hospice staff.

Oh well, lets see what happens tomorrow, Jules my mum has also lost a leg, she lost it when she was 10 so that isnt making life easier for her and she is a diabetic too on 4 injections a day.She is managing to inject herself at the moment but she has been diabetic for over 50 years so that is fairly well ingrained in her memory.She is worried about taking the oxynorm on the higher dose that she was advised to do as she realises it affects her badly so has gone back down to the smaller dose.

Take care,

Jacci xx

Hi Jacci

Thats good news re hospice staff visiting your Mum - they are such a wonderful source of support and think you know best what is right for your Mum'sneeds.  Sounds like she knows what she needs too which will be a great help as she can voice her own opinions when they visit and perhaps they will be able to liaise with the district nurse.  Am sure having a couple of days  break  will enable you to recharge too.  Jules xx

Hi Jacci

Thats good news re hospice staff visiting your Mum - they are such a wonderful source of support and think you know best what is right for your Mum'sneeds.  Sounds like she knows what she needs too which will be a great help as she can voice her own opinions when they visit and perhaps they will be able to liaise with the district nurse.  Am sure having a couple of days  break  will enable you to recharge too.  Jules xx