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Should I be telling people she not been given long to live

Liz-up-north
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My mum has cancer in multiple areas. Dr said maybe couple of months but obviously its difficult to give a exact time scale. I tend to be more practical and it keeps me busy and focused. 

So do I need to start to tell people like bank, pensions etc? Is there a list somewhere of people I should be informing. 

I need to ask my mum about funeral arrangements like songs, readings etc is there a practical list somewhere incase I have not thought of something. 

Thanks for any practical advice. 

  • The only people that I advised before my mums death was her Gp to arrange palliative care nurses and family and friends that mum wanted to see before she died.  The banks and pensions etc are usually dealt with afterwards when you have got the death certificate etc.

    Mum had already arranged her funeral a years ago, when the nurses advised me that we were only a couple of days away from the end, I did notify them that it was nearly time.

    Just be there for your mum and as you say, get her wishes with regard to funeral and whether there is anyone she would like to see, that all that you can do at this time.

  • Offline in reply to annie123

    Thanks for that info. Sound advice, I have told distant family and taken her best mate to see her and will do so as and when they both up to it. Thank you. 

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