Hi I'm so very sorry to hear about your dad I hope you can all get through this as easy as possible ,I've heard a few people on hear telling others to ring Macmillans cancer care and they will sort out many things for you including any benefits you would be due to so if I were you I would give the ones in your area a ring and explain your circumstances x

Hi Jenny, thanks for the advice I will give them a call. My wife has just recovered from breast cancer at least with her prognosis we knew it was curable and now this is totally the opposite there’s no light at the end of the tunnel. God only knows what my dad is thinking and going through and all the other families in similar situations. It’s totally heartbreaking  

I'm glad its better news for your wife great that its curable for her ,such a shame about your dad heart breaking ,I hope Macmillans can help you all out on a few things it must be so confusing for you at a time like this ,take each day as it comes and deal with it or even each hour if you need to to ,let us know how you get on someone is always here for you to try and answer any questions you might have .

Thanks Jenny, yes it’s all too much to take in at the moment. Hoping he can have some time at home before his condition worsens. He can only eat puréed food so things like this I’m currently looking into but he’s also a diabetic so way too much going on 

I am really sorry you are going through this, could you possibly get a second opinion maybe look for a specialist oncologist at a different hospital it may be worth asking for a referral, even look into trials of new treatments coming out, also definitely contact Macmillan they are excellent they will help your mom go through benefits forms you can most likely get PIP as he will need 24 hr care again ask Macmillan if there is a rush procedure for your dad's situation