Hi all,

I’m not trying to sound insensitive by posting this however it’s been bothering me for quite a long time now. A few years ago an ex boyfriend got in contact with me again after a few years of no contact. I was going through a hard time as my dad had been diagnosed with terminal cancer a few months earlier. I explained this to him and he told me he had cancer too and was struggling.

He asked me for support and said it was in his lip (he made me feel the lump in his lip) and that he may need chemo so would loose his hair or an operation and may need a new metal jaw as a result.  He asked me to go to his appointments with him which despite having to have unpaid time off work I agreed to.  I kept asking when then were and he kept saying he had the letters but was too scared to open them. I began having doubts as he then claimed he was too busy at work to have time for the treatment. We then began to loose touch again. 

Fast forward a year and we get close again and he claims he’s had an operation to remove it and he’s now cancer free. I then find out I’m pregnant and he walks out. When he met his child for the first time and I asked about any extra medical information for her record he went mad at me for putting his cancer on this. He said it was caused by spilling something on his lip at work and she would never get it. Also when his mum sent me a detailed family medical information list as he refused she didn’t put anything about his cancer.

My question is can you get cancer by spilling something on your lip? He works with cars so not exactly a dangerous job. Or was this all a sick twisted lie to get attention at a time I was really vulnerable due to my dads illness.