Hi Honeybee, it's the Loss of life as planned and the unknown future that are hard to accept.  My husband took early retirement aged 63 after working since the age of 15 and three months later he had a blood clot and had his leg amputated, so yes its very hard to lose your future.  He has now been battling stage 4 lung and liver cancer but we live each day as happily as we can.  So my advice would be to live in the moment, what you've lost is not important because he is still here and that's a very big bonus to you both.  So just take each day as it comes, enjoy the good days and know that the bad days will pass.  We're three years on now but it's not curable so we live in the moment.  I'm here on my Dor06 page if you want to chat, or message privately.  Don't despair, it truly doesn't help.  Hugs your way, Carol x 

 Hi Hunnybee2 .

We all know what your feeling we've all been there and done that,and yes it does help to write things down.

Most have different sorts of cancer but the feelings are still the same and the thoughts.

The forum is a good place to talk rant or let off steam,.

Me and my darling wife were lucky we've been together for alot of years and had planned plenty for after retirement then My wife was diagnosed with Altzimers and Parkinson's,and I was diagnosed with cancer, been on palative care since early 2016 .

Keep positive, that's what I do.

Billy

Hi Dor06,

thank you for your kind words I do appreciate them and thank you I will keep in touch. Sending my love x