Hi Janepeter1

I also had bilateral breast cancer with lumpectomies and reconstruction. I too was scared when facing surgery but couldn't believe how simple it all was. I was never in any pain and home the next day. I didn't buy special pillows as I could sleep on my side, stomach, in fact, any position. 

The key for me was to get a comfortable bra that would hold everything together but soft enough that it didn't disturb my sleep.  I bought Asda 'comfort' bras and also reinforced vests that have an extra layer for breast support (Primark).

Try not to worry about the operation, honestly it's not as bad as you think x