Stage 4 breast cancer

I was recently diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer and referred for a staging scan. It showed that the cancer has spread to both lungs and liver. I'm devastated. My family is devastated and I don't know how to carry on. I can't start chemo for another month so I feel that I'm sitting waiting to die. I'm not ready to die though. I'm only 51 and have so much more to live for.