Breast cancer

Hi im new to the forum and havent posted before but ive been reading thru old posts that have really helped me i dont really have a question as such i was diagnosed end of march with er + pr + her2 - invasive ductal carcinoma i had 3 lumpectomys none of which got clear margins so ended up having mastectomy now im on tamoxifen my onco score was 14 so i didnt get chemo but i did have micromets to sentinel node which was removed it was grade 1 so slowing growing cancer but i cant get rid of the anxiety that because id no chemo its goin to go off somewhere else in my body and it b in my bones every ache i get i think its the cancer ive still to have hysterectomy in november and genetic testin as there is a family history my sister had breast cancer11 years ago shes still with us and my mam had it at age 85 shes 88 ive 3 kids and even though im doing school runs planning birthday parties and looking after my mam at night i cant stop crying i just wish id my old life back how i miss my mundane worries b4 cancer landed in my life anyway just wanted to say thanks to all the lovely ladies and men who take the time to reply to newly diagnosed people xx

  • Hello love,

    this is a whole new world isn't it, I'm afraid even if you had chemo you would still be worrying, I've had everything thrown at me and it's a constant niggle in the back of my head....even my headaches I worry it's spreading to my brain. I even called my breast nurse yesterday as I'm getting pain in my good boob, she reigned me in! 

    All I want to say is your not alone, if you can ....call your breast nurse, mine was a gem....they talk sense....

     

    xxxx

  • Hi marlyn thank u for replyin to me i see u were only diagnosed yourself last december i hope u are doing well now i suppose you are right the worry will always be there we just have to try find a new normal its not always easy my sister had it at age 39 shes 52 now so actually 13 years ago not 11 as i said in my earlier post i hope you continue to do well xx
  • My mum had bc too, she was my age when diagnosed, I think it will always sit on our shoulders....some days I barely give it a second thought, other days it feels hopeless....we are only human.....but it's good to share our worries and know we're not alone xxx

  • It is good to share worries with people who understand what your talking about  people mean well but say things like why arent u happy you have the all clear i find it hard to hold my temper with them sometimes they expect me to just bounce back be the way i was before id say 5 days out of the week i am then i just seem to have a meltdown but pick myself up again i suppose because ive the hysterectomy to come ive an ovarian cyst and had another sister who had ovarian cancer 5 years ago so im havin hysterectomy i never told my 14 year i had cancer i cant say the words to her and because i didnt need chemo i taught why worry her i just told her im having preventative surgery some might not agree with that but i dont want her upset my older 2 kids know i suppose i cudnt believe my bad luck last year i was diagnosed with a rare vascular disease that has no cure after havin a mini stroke and then cancer its just like another slap in the face but i suppose im still here to vent about both my illnesses so i will just keep going this is a great forum everyone on it does a great job just knowing u can pop on and see people getting on with there life who are living with cancer or out the other side its great to hear maryln that some days u dont even think about your cancer wow thats amazing i hope to be like that eventually

  • Yes, people who haven't been through it really haven't a clue, your right, I know they mean well but honestly! Sometimes it takes all my strength not to actually push them over! Lol 

    im sorry to hear about your added health issues, that won't be helping either, I have everything crossed your surgery goes well.....and for what it's worth I agree with you not worrying your youngest, I mean, what would be the point? 

     

    Onwards and upwards love....you have the fighting spirit all right...xx

     

     

  • Ah thanks maryln u did make me laugh there when u said it takes all your strength not to push them over i will keep you posted on my next operation xx 

  • Hi,sorry to hear of your anxiety, if your worried then go ask for scans to be done to put your mind at rest.  They will do them for you because of what you have been through, don't let them palm you off your entitled.  You will feel so much better once you know then you can get your life back, looking after your mam as well, your amazing xx

  • Thank you for your lovely reply i see we were diagnosed around the same time your so good to take the time to reply to my post when your having a hard time yourself i hope your chemo goes ok if thats the right word to use il be thinking of you