father in law

hello, i hope you are all as well as you could be. 

i would appreciate some advice. my father in law (who i love) has been in pooor health for some years, has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer. my husbands siblings have had a fractured relationship with me. however, since my dad in laws diagnosis, i have been trying my very best to do good by inlaw and my father inlaw aswell as my amazing husband. i have been in a siutuation where i have looked after (helped look after) my own family members through this awful time but this is my first time as an ‘outsider’ i am finding this so difficult and i dont know what to say or do. does anyone have any advice? my husband is my world and i dont want to upset him or his family. x

  • Hi Tomas...

    Bless ya .. looks like you've got a big heart who so wants to help ... and you said you have helped your own family which is easier as it's your family ...

    If I were you, I'd take a back seat ... let them know, you will help if they need anything... and tell them, you feel a little lost, but are willing to help in any way ... and let them come to you .. your husband should be able to go between you and them, and support you too .. ask him if there's anything you can do ..

    But know they may want to look after him their self .. but you could always do little things ... but let them lead the way ... I'm sure you just being there will help him ... Chrissie x