Post operation tears and fears

Hi,

I am over 2 weeks now since my lumpectomy and can’t understand why im feeling so low....tearful and panicky?

is this normal as I was fine before the operation and now with it gone I thought I would be feeling good,but no I just feel so empty,emotional and down....

Please can anyone advise or help?

Jackie xx

 

 

  • Hi jackie anasthetic can do that allso your adrenalin will be running on overdrive with worry before so now its not youve might comng down from a high adrenalin is a drug just we make it ourselves part ofour flight or fight mecaism best if you had a word with gp could be a bit of healthe anxiaty best nip that in the bud before it takes over eh sorry cant help much more been through a bit of that myself ime waiting for biopsie results trying to convince myself all the time it will be ok doing ok so far trying not to let it get the better of me but if you dont know it can be very confusing

    . Paul

  • Hi there ..

    It could be delayed shock ... sometimes we go through "trauma "  and feel like wer coping .. the after it's over, our brains realise how scary a time we've had .. and realisation of the whole situation takes over ..

    Give your self permission to feel any thing, at any time .. just think of the whole journey you've been on ..no wonder you feel things now .. and it's only been two weeks ..  feelings are there for a reason .. and if you acknowledge it but get it in balance ... you can share feelings as much as you want on here ... it will at least give you an understanding of why ....  Chrissie x

  • Hi Christie,

    Thank you,Yes I think it’s maybe delayed shock as took everything in my stride until a few days after the operation and since can’t stop the knot in my tummy,always on my mind,panicky,tired and tearful but it’s gone....Maybe with the shock and what’s to come next is scrambling my mind and playing with my emotions.... 

    Much love for being there for me 

    Jackie xxx

  • Hi Jackie

    I can completely relate to how you feel at the moment. I am one week post lumpectomy and sentinel node biopsy operation and feel that I haven’t had time to digest things since I first went to the GP with symptoms just over a month ago. Since then it’s been many phone calls and appointments, mammograms, biopsy's and MRIs and just generally getting things organised so I haven’t had too much thinking time  

    Now I’m at home recovering I’ve been feeling a bit sorry for myself over the last couple of days. On the one hand I’m happy that the cancer is gone but I’m dreading the next appointment when I find if if that’s actually the full picture. Hopefully it is and it’ll “just” be radiotherapy and hormone therapy to face. 

    I think with me it’s just the quickness of how fast everything has moved and my emotions just haven’t caught up yet. I think we just need to give ourselves  some time and be kind to ourselves. 

    Take care xx

  • Hi,Thank you yes mine was very quick and kept busy with all the tests etc....so didn’t have time to take stock of it all....

    Boy has it hit me now.... the cancer cut out and off to see Consultant on Wednesday for all the other results from tumour,and what’s next!!! 

    Im just a bag of nerves now,tired and full of emotions!! 

    Think you are right,keep,in touch as maybe we can help each other being so close together in our journey 

    Jackie xxx

     

  • I think both the 'adrenalin' and ' delayed shock' comments are spot on. I was perfectly OK .. Right up to last week on hearing consultant say " all is good " . I' ve felt a bit down - when it should be the exact opposite ! 

    As I've said previously - I was exactly 8 weeks from diagnosis to consultants all good - and I had mastectomy with sentinal node biopsy . ( only tamoxifen needed ) Good luck to you both - Jackie and Petals.......

     

    Stay positive x

     

  • Thank you Lucky,mine was 6 weeks as got a cancelled for the operation and it was here there and everywhere for the tests and then in and lumpectomy done!!! 

    Now to see what Consultant says on Wednesday....

    Much love to you xxx

  • Bless you Lucky,... and you too on how you are going xxx