Hi pj don't blame yourself can you get others together so if nead can support each other, so sorry you're sister took it bad, she'll get over it remember you've the ill one,, remember your going to be cured, unless you start smoking again, like we all say relax keep carm you haven't done anything wrong, good luck with others (could you tell the strong ones first help things along a bit, good luck,

Been struggling to get it to send third time lucky 

Hi PJ

As Billy has said dont blame yourself. Your sister got upset bacause she cares about you and your brother will too.

It is tempting to go it alone but I think your loved ones would prefer you to share,its a heavy burden on your own.

You may find once your sister has got over her initial shock she will be a rock for you.

Take it from me I am going it alone from here on and its not a good place to be.I wish I had a careing sister and brother.Mine are rocks hard as rocks! I wish I had never told them a thing.

You will feel better tomorrow,give her a wee call. xxx

Hi pj sorry for making a mess of your string, everything going wrong as you can tell if you want to hit me, virtually I hope again so sorry about your sister, but at least she knows pop and she her again both have a good heart to heart maby cry let it all out, best wishes.

Billy 

Hi pj please reply worried about you I know you are very sensitive about this you know I struggle with right words, maybe [@Chris S]‍ or [@Sandra123]‍, could help me with the right words, love,,, Billy.

Sorry hiccups 

Hi pj, please reply, know your upset because of your sister. You know I not to good with words, maybe [@Chris S]‍, or [@Sandra123]‍ will help me out, remember we're like one big family, one hurts we all hurt, XXX Billy 

Hi Billy...

Don't worry , I'm sure P J is just sorting her feelings out .. I can private message ... she knows I'm here for her ... 

It happened to me to ... my niece was sobbing too for ages ... and I had to find a way to calm her ... it's the shock on hearing the word cancer ... it can be as hard for loved ones as our selfs hearing it ... 

So don't worry , I'll send her a message now ... 

Thanks Chris

Hi pj have you got travel bag full yet, including kettle, i hope you've got some posh, Pjs to go with your private room,, I've had a holdall ready for a couple of years now only thing missing is my phone, go see your sister talk it out properly both have a good cry it'll do you both good,, don't put it off to long, it only makes things worse, your best friend Billy, xx

P.s i don't have many friends so I have to help you any way I can, best wishes 

Dear PJ, don't feel guilty, they would have found out later and been cross with you, you really can't win!  We didn't tell our daughters  until we knew what it was and they got cross and upset but I used my options of its our decision when to tell people, not theirs, they calmed down and talked sensibly after that.  So take a step back, this is your fight and you need support, not negativity, lots of support here for you.  Time to be Number One, look after you first.  Much love, Carol x 

Hi huni I hD the same thing when I told my family it was the hardest thing in the world but they love you they will work it out xxx