Wife being diagnosed with secondary breast cancer

Hi

My wife has been diagnosed with secondary breast cancer it's in the hips

Over the last 15 years she has had add breast cancer three times 15 years ago she had breast cancer in a mastectomy 7 years ago she had a a lumpectomy 3 years ago she had another vasectomy now we've just found out that she has secondary breast cancer

The reason I'm on here to find out what I can do do what will happen and maybe find out how long we got and what we can do with the time that we have at the moment we have been scared frightened of the uncertainty of what is going to happen next if is there anybody out there who can help or shed light on what we going through please get back to me thanks

  • Hi Dez

    im so sorry to hear that. My husband is in your situation and partners often get lost in this scary time. I know this sounds a bit morbid, but I have written all my wishes , funeral and things I want my family to remember, in a book. I don’t know how you feel about this but I had a huge sense of relief that my husband and children know exactly what to do when the time comes. I have made it uplifting, with lots of great memories of our life together. I try and enjoy the time I have left but don’t feel the need to have a bucket list. Please talk to someone, as you need support too. I really hope your wife can just enjoy each day. Once you accept it, you will be more at peace. Bless you both xx

  • Hi Dez I was diagnosed with BC spread in to my lungs in May 2019 I am on chemo since August 2019 and its still working tumors dissapearing or shrinking.Did they offer your wife any treatment?I am feeling quiet well.I have returned even to work.I have never asked for prognosis and I dont want to know because Doctors can just read statistics.I am definitely not plannin my funeral yet.Many people here live with secondary diagnosis many years.Nobody can predict how long she has left it depends if she is having treatment or how she will responds to it.

     

    Take care

    Denise