Breast Cancer Treatment Starts Next Week - Confused

Hi, I know I'm luckier than most and the NHS are fantastic, but I'm confused and it's not helping with the stress. Went for pre- admission today, all OK, but only home and call to say admission brought forward to next week! Was supposed to be mid to late June. I'm OK with that, they assure me prognosis is the same,  but it is the extremes of info you get. Ward nurse talking about admitting me for the entire month of radio; Cancer Nurse telling me I can go back and forth every day for a month "by train". Imagine something between the two extremes is about right to expect, but oh boy does this mess with your head. Only diagnosed on 7th - complete roller-coaster. Be good to hear from anyone but PLEASE don't say anything negative!!!

  • Hi VPlum. I am a stage 2 breast cancer 2 yrs post treatment. I think that none if on here can really comment as we aren't medical professionals so cannot say which is right or wrong. Yes it is a real rollercoaster ride - no doubt about it and you feel like you're in a bubble with appt after appt but you got this. Write some questions down and speak with your medical team for the answers. I asked loads of questions to gain an understanding as that was all I could control. But I'm on the other side of it all which you will be too. Just a couple of hurdles and you'll be giving those words of encouragement. Remember - at least you're in the radar and are being treated. That is a great step in the right direction. Keep us posted and let us know what is happening. This forum is great and was and is a real God send throughout what is a difficult time emotionally and physically. You hang in there and remember you got this.

  • JBains, thank you for wise and kind words. I do try to support and help others on here, and will continue to do that. I really do think this site is a great help. X 54 years old but seriously considering packing my teddy in Hosp Bag. LOL X

  • Hey pack that teddy and whatever else makes you feel good. Turned 50 when diagnosed and took good luck charm in when had op. No one on here to judge at all. You will get through this. Go onto thread I'm on (the good and bad) and you'll find some wonderful ladies on there as well as a variety of topics of discussion. We are all there with you virtually. One day at a time...

  • Hi vplum good idea teddy bear don't forget a bottle of wine inside it, or something stronger. Good luck. 

    Billy 

  • When admissions are brought forward it is almost always due to cancellations rather than due to anything to do with the patient themself so please don't worry about that aspect of it.

    I have noticed that with how fast things move when you are undergoing cancer treatment that someone will tell you what was decided at a meeting, not realising that sometimes another meeting takes place just hours later and it all changes again.  Then you get told by someone else what was decided at the later meeting and the two contrast.  It's the nature of the beast annoyingly and can leave us confused.  But it's a good thing as it means your case is being discussed regularly and they really are on top of your treatment, it would be worrying if we weren't being talked about :)

    I don't, of course, know what it means in terms of whether you get admitted or travel there by train everyday.  I imagine (haven't had my radiotherapy yet) that the latter could be very tiring.  When we go over to Southampton for ours the government pays for a minibus to ferry us back and forward from our accommodation.  But you may obviously prefer to be sleeping in your own bed.  Both admission and non-admission have their benefits and their drawbacks.

    Since it is next week if I were you I would make a phone call and get a definitive answer on whether or not you are being admitted.  That gives you time to prepare for admission if you need to.

    Best wishes for your treatment.

    LJx

  • Thanks to Twin2, BillyG and JBains - all your posts have helped immensely. I am here for you guys too! Unbelievable how quickly this has happened - 4 weeks from diagnosis to treatment beginning. NHS is fantastic and I know I am very blessed and lucky. One last day at work to tie up loose ends and then I can.      ?relax? into 'patient mode'. Best thing about nurses is when I'm white as a sheet with shock they make me a cuppa. So, so kind and human. If that sounds like I'm a diva, just to explain I don't have any living relatives, so it's been really scary for me, this last few weeks. I have been slowly but surely building up a support network though, and that in includes all the amazingly brave, kind and generous people on here. God Bless everyone. Hope you will stay in touch as it helps so much. Big Hug to Everyone. 

  • Hi v 

    Don't forget the Teddy bear,. Best wishes from us all on the forum i won't say g__d lu_k i don't want to jinx it, if you want to talk we're all here.

    Billy 

  • Hey Billy G, what are you up to? I'm just starting on my supper ( get told off if don't eat) and got a really good library book lined up for later. We sure living the high life kiddo, no? LOL X

  • Hi v 

    Not much wife watching soaps, so i keep out the way is it raining there tis here. Hope you're supper isn't fattening.

    Billy 

  • I'm in Ireland, its always raining. Lol. X Actually a Yorkshire Lass though, so I drink copious amounts of tea and get overly excited about sheepdogs and cheese. V