My ex husband recently died of bladder cancer, having survived cancer previously four times. From his last diagnosis to his passing was six weeks. A very sad and traumatic time for everyone and a deep sadness that this vile disease has claimed another young life. My partner of 6 years was diagnosed with prostrate cancer four years ago and has been monitored until recently when a more in depth biopsy showed that he will now need to have his prostrate removed. As someone who cared for her husband for twelve years with cancer, knowing first hand all the traumas that came our way, I am feeling desperately low. My partner knows my past and worries that he has brought more pain and upset to my life. I love him deeply and whilst needing to comfort and love him even more of late, I am feeling ‘the woe is me’ emotions. I have booked my first counselling session to cope mentally with my own emotions knowing that this will help both of us as I need to be strong.
My partner also hasn’t told anyone about his diagnosis, including his very close family. No one but me knows and this doesn’t help as I cannot talk to anyone about it. He feels that until there is some thing to tell people, then it’s best left between us. However, I lived like that with my ex and I struggled as I couldn’t talk to anyone I knew. So when I’m feeling upset about him, I am having to tell untruths as to why I am upset. This in itself is a battle.
