Hello 

I have been diagnosed with bowel cancer in June this year and have 4years old son. 

Did your doctor tried any of the treatments to be sure that they won`t work for you?

Did cancer spread anywhere?

From my experiance I can just say that talking to close friends and partner/wife/husband helps a lot - nobody should face cancer alone. Did you try to seek for a psychologist appointment? (I was referred to NHS psychologist). In my situation when I was telling about diagnose to more and more of my friends I felt better - they do understand me and my needs and are willing to support whatever I will need. 

Find the strenght in yourself - if you want to do something just do it :) don`t wait :) I`m 32 and first thing I was thinking when I`ve heard my diagnose was about my son growing without me and taht there is a lot of places I`d like to show him so we have started to travel when I felt a bit better after surgery and between chemo cycles. 

You are young and strong and remember don`t be afraid to ask for help :) 

Good luck 

Mal

Hi there, I too was diagnosed with colon cancer almost 2 years ago now. I can emphasise with you totally on how you are feeling, although I'm years older than you, I'm 69 ! I had a horrendous consultant who told me I had diverticulitis, a miracle man who could tell without any form of I vestigation, and who left everything for about 6 months. I was in so much pain all the time, my son got angry and approached a business manager , who was disgusted at the way if been treated. O cut s long story short. I then saw a really good consultant and things moved on from there. The roads been very rocky, and in  May this year i had a reversal ,  this has been quite traumatic and I'm still having lots of accidents which has made me a bit of a recluse. I have had very little help through this, my husband has been quite nasty about the whole thing, moaning that I've ruined his life. My grown up children have been very good although they live miles away, and they have their own little families to.look after. Just want to say hang on in there, I've been manic all this time wondering if to.irrow will come, but I now seem to have slipped into a state of.limbo, if I let myself think too much, I get very scared, but I try to push it to the back if my mind all the time. I feel you should demand a second opinion, jyouve got a lot ifnluving to do, so don't give in to this vile disease, kick it wear it hurts and live for your lovely children. Try to think positive. Sending love and hope x

I was diagnosed with bowel cancer (which has spread to my liver) in May this year, it’s ok to be dramatic, try to keep positive too. It’s so difficult I know and my biggest thing is my children, they are 16 and 18 so many more memories and milestones to come that I want to be there for. On my positive days I keep thinking I’m here now so live for today, on not so positive days my fantastic friends pull me through. It has helped me to tell people so I can talk freely. My husband has been amazing and his humour helps immensely! 

Sending you a smile to help you through today x