Still strugling

Passed the 5 years on Tamoxifen, but my doc wants me to go  another 3 years ‘cause there was 8 ‘cancer foyer’ in the mass they took out. Doing well, but really struggling when let’s say we’re having family over and politics gets talked. I can talk them under the table, but, after a while, my heart starts feeling tense and I tell them I want to argue differently because I have no time to loose. I wanna discuss and laugh, not fight. I’m being left to feel that ‘the conversation was not about that (your cancer). My husband had prostate cancer about 3 years ago, but, he opted to have it removed. Cancer, for him, is gone. But me, I feel alone, despertly alone among cancer-free people who don’t want to give me the time of day. 

The worst, is that I am a kind soul who spreads love everyday  

Any advice about dealing with never-had-cancer-people?

Lots-o-love. 

Anne

  • Hi Anne, I'm sorry you're struggling.  I'm the cancer free carer and my husband manages, somehow to always make the discussion about him and his thoughts so I can see both sides.  If you are dealing with cancer the partner and friends don't realise how you feel, they think living some normality of life is the best remedy for all.  Obviously this is hard for you because you are the one living with it.  Every day I write my inner most thoughts in a blog, it clears my mind, so how about keeping a diary and letting it all out in there.  Then take each day as it comes and make it a fresh start.  Talk to a good friend who understands and this may help with the way you feel.   Good luck Anne, Carol

  • Hello,

    Yes discuss and laugh :D, don't fight - you've nailed it.

    If you're on Tamoxifen for a while though, and does it matter? There might be a good side to that too?

    But I love your spirit, and you are totally right to remain you.

    :) 

    xx