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Hi was diagnosed with lung cancer by chance last October. I had my left lung removed in Dec. 

I was initially in remission an everyone seemed to be so happy .

Meanwhile I was an stIll am in extreme pain,weak and I was getting more an more depressed every day. I cannot tell you how many people have said it's time to move on an stop looking back.

I am now on medication for the depression. I have piled weight on an just wonder Will I ever feel normal again. 

I am having scans every 3 months as the cancer is an aggressive type an my mum an grandad died of lung cancer. 

I try to stay positive but the operation traumatised me as the pain was so severe. I feel there is no real help or support.

Does anyone else feel like this?

Jackie

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    Hi Jackie, I think you will find most people on this forum feel the same way, left to get on with life and very little help.  When my husband finished all treatments for his stage 4 incurable lung cancer,  I don't think we realised how hard it is to "just get on with it".  If you have good friends tell them how you feel, seek counseling or talk to the Mc Millan nurses.  There is help out there, you just needs to access it for you.  A lot of areas have special clubs for cancer sufferers so ask your GP to see if there is one where you live.  I write my feelings down each day and it clears my head, you can say exactly how you feel and no one will judge you.  Keep posting if it helps and you will get support from others on this forum.   Take care of yourself and don't let it overwhelm you to the point it's ruining your life.  Good luck Jackie.

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    Hi Jackie, I know a bit how you feel. I had a lumpectomy done 3rd May and thankfully it came back benign was discharged from hospital and told will be given a mammogram every year from now on. I am nearly all repaired physical but mentally it’s taken a longer. People think just because I didn’t have cancer I should be in cloud nine and getting on with life. Yes I know I should I am one of the lucky ones but mentally what I went through will stay with me. My core biopsies were inconclusive then having the op then another two week wait really took its toll on me. I will get there just going to take time as it was so stressful. I don’t “do sick” so think it made it harder as well. 

    I am sorry if anyone finds this sounding selfish as thankfully I didn’t have cancer so didn’t go through nearly as much as a lot of you have and my heart goes out to you all  x 

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    Hi i cant understand why people use that horrid word move on it makes you feel worse wonder how they would feel .you will get there what you need is support i used to say you tell me how to then keep fighting your still here and what a blessing for you family and friends best wishs paul

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